TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

Even in their absence, the twin flame runner evokes a powerful presence. In today's collective consciousness, there’s a tendency to idealize that one lost love. It’s part of the human experience to commemorate our defeats—both personal and collective—turning deep wounds into significant markers that can hinder our ability to live authentically from the heart and love fully again. The nostalgia and sense of loss linger profoundly after the runner departs, keeping people on edge, as they often perceive pain as the only motivation in their pursuit of love.

The collective consciousness acts as a repository of shared knowledge and wisdom that individuals tap into when facing practical and existential challenges. This library of insights has various sections, and which part we access greatly influences our future paths and emotional states. Unfortunately, people often gravitate toward solutions that have failed them in the past. This library exists both externally and internally, and understanding one aspect helps illuminate the other.

However, it doesn’t have to be this way. It’s possible to rediscover a sense of self grounded in inner strength and beauty. Our internal feelings hold immense power in shaping our identities, character, and personalities. Pain and suffering can distract us from our true essence. The magic of the soul is always present, accessible to everyone whenever they choose, simply by shifting their conscious thought. Yet, the reflections of our thoughts, feelings, and emotions through the lens of the runner can create a distorted self-image.

Initially, the emotional response to separation often manifests as heartbreak, draining vital energy. In the void left by abandonment, one hears echoes of the common belief ingrained since birth: that they are not enough. The twin flame excels at challenging us, frequently reminding us of these feelings. It’s our responsibility to confront these beliefs and embrace our true selves. Our understanding of love and loyalty can often mislead us, leading us to become submissive to our partner's angry outbursts in the name of love.

The twin flame is not there to provide endless validation; they are there to experience love and be loved.

Being abandoned by a partner reinforces the pervasive messages from the world that suggest we are not good enough. When people struggle with their self-worth, they tend to project that insecurity onto others, regardless of how wonderful or authentic those people may be.

Abandonment reinforces this belief, as the sudden loss of a partner resonates deeply within us without question. What one perceives as current reality—a sad reality—has never been real or true. The truth is that everyone is inherently enough; despite individual differences, everyone deserves love. Speaking to others with disdain and condescension is an outdated paradigm, often perpetuated by those who have never felt celebrated for their qualities and talents.

The runner is not unlike anyone else. Regardless of how highly they regard themselves, they too live under the "I'm not good enough" paradigm, which extends to their fears surrounding love, abandonment, and intimacy. This complex mix of emotions can be overwhelming, leaving many struggling to cope. To comprehend why the runner withdraws from a relationship despite still being in love, it’s essential to recognize that their internal demons are raging within them, and you, as their partner or twin flame, serve as a constant reminder of their emotional turmoil.

What may seem nonsensical to you can be perfectly rational to them. How they process their fears and their willingness to confront these demons will dictate whether they choose to stay or leave. Love alone is not always sufficient; when faced with their fears and demons, they may feel their vitality and sense of self-diminishing. Reconnecting with our true selves often necessitates traversing dark periods filled with depression, anxiety, and fear. During these times, it becomes nearly impossible to feel worthy, and the runner is reluctant to let anyone witness their struggles. They see themselves as independent, adventurous, and brave, and do not want to appear weak by succumbing to their fears.

In a relationship, nothing is more intimidating than knowing our partner can see that we no longer believe we are worthy. Misinterpreting vulnerability as a weakness only amplifies that belief.

The twin flame relationship heightens every emotion. At this juncture, the runner faces two choices: engage in an open dialogue with their partner to seek support and acknowledge that love has the power to heal, or convince themselves of the false notion that they can reclaim their sense of self independently. When the runner distances themselves from the relationship, it not only shatters your heart but also theirs, although they would never admit it or allow you to see their pain.

The challenge in forming a new dialogue lies in two key factors: first, individuals must confront and share their fears and demons, along with the consequences these have had on their lives and relationships; second, the emotional chaos can lead them to revert to familiar excuses, viewing them as insurmountable barriers.

The goal of this dialogue is to initiate a transformative narrative that empowers individuals to reach their fullest potential by exploring their authentic selves. Truth is an essential component in reaching this state.

The runner does not enter a relationship to end it, though they are often guarded and perpetually alert. They desire to stay, drawn to the magic and dynamics of the bond. While navigating the dark chambers of their soul and confronting their demons and fears, they are simultaneously captivated by the intensity of love present in this particular relationship.

The runner chooses to remain once they realize that the safety and security they seek can be found in the present moment with their partner; that fleeing equates to running from themselves, from love, and from everything they are searching for.

Deciding to end a relationship and run away may provide a fleeting sense of power, but it also prevents the other partner from achieving closure, ultimately making the runner weaker with each breakup. Failing to grasp this paradox, they overlook the reality that what they do to others, they do to themselves. This illusion of power is a mirage; when the runner flees at the first sign of fear, they are relinquishing love, you, and ultimately, themselves, unaware that fear is merely a deceptive illusion that isn’t as terrifying as it seems.

The runner often harbors a deep-seated fear of becoming ensnared in a codependent relationship. Ironically, they frequently contribute to this codependency through their constant rhetoric about valuing independence and their tendency to abruptly abandon relationships without warning. This mindset is steeped in a certain arrogance, characterized by an inflated sense of self-worth that tends to vanish into thin air when there is no one around to witness it. Such beliefs serve only to cultivate a sense of dependency in their partners, as they often attract attention and affection through the very fear that they claim to reject.

To break this cycle, the runner must come to a profound realization: they cannot continue running indefinitely; they must confront their fears head-on. This involves acknowledging that their deepest fear is not love itself but rather the pain associated with abandonment and emotional hurt. They must recognize that it is not love that causes them pain, but their resistance to opening themselves up to love—both in terms of giving it and allowing themselves to receive it. Embracing this truth is essential for attaining the emotional maturity necessary for love to flow freely, and this journey requires immense courage.

Through their life experiences, the runners become acutely aware that the same issues repeatedly surface in every relationship they engage in. At some point, they need to pause and reflect on why these patterns keep resurfacing. When they begin to ask themselves this crucial question, it doesn’t take long for them to realize that they are dragging the same unresolved issues from one relationship to the next. Often, they find that with each new connection, the situation deteriorates further. They discover various ways to reintroduce their old issues into these relationships, often cunningly shifting the blame for their vulnerabilities onto their partners. They need to understand that blame cannot be a part of their narrative; taking responsibility for their feelings and emotions is the only path toward genuine love. It is perfectly okay to admit that they are afraid.

It is only when the runner gathers the courage to present their most vulnerable self to their partner that they can truly begin to see what they have been searching for all along love, friendship, companionship, and, surprisingly, someone who genuinely listens to them. They will come to realize that if they previously felt unheard or misunderstood, it was often because it felt safer to flee rather than to voice their feelings and concerns.

Finding the courage to confront the fear of love may initially give the impression of dismantling their very being as if they are being torn apart by the weight of their emotions or their partner’s expectations. However, with patience and perseverance, they can witness the gradual dissolution of old, unhelpful paradigms, making way for the emergence of a new and improved version of themselves. Each personal transformation often follows a metaphorical death, where the old self must give way to the new. Facing these challenges in a supportive, loving relationship with someone who listens and understands is far preferable to enduring this journey alone. Ultimately, the choice remains a deeply personal one.

It is crucial to remember that this journey is not about proving oneself right, but rather about the willingness to cultivate the right feelings in their life. No one can truly feel right or whole while they continue to run away from love; it’s an exhausting and unsustainable way to live. In embracing vulnerability and accountability, the runner can begin to shift their perspective, transforming their approach to love and relationships in profound and fulfilling ways.