TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

A few months ago, I began writing about twin flames due to the widespread confusion and misconceptions surrounding the topic. After three blog posts, I continue to receive numerous inquiries from readers asking, “Is this my twin flame?”

While I could answer such questions in many cases, doing so requires significant effort and wouldn’t yield a definitive answer. Love, like everything else in life, carries an inherent uncertainty. One day, we will all come to understand that the magic of life resides in its unpredictability and spontaneity. Life evolves, and so do we.

Seeking certainty in the responses of others can hinder our ability to discover our truths. Furthermore, this dependency risks leading us to complacency, assuming that encountering our twin flame guarantees a lifetime together. When we take someone for granted, we start to say goodbye. Love is an active process that must be nurtured from beginning to end. Just as we can feed our fears with worry, we can also nourish love to help it flourish and grow. Movement and action ignite creativity and cultivate more love. The challenge lies in our tendency to revert to old paradigms, beliefs, and habits that stifle growth and obscure our true selves.

As I mentioned in previous articles, we only encounter our twin flames when we are ready to receive them. There are certainly ways to expedite this reunion, but seeking certainty or a false sense of security is not among them. Love in any relationship is a journey that we must fully embrace, offering us valuable insights into our true selves, whether with a twin flame, a soul mate, or anyone else. The unknown is filled with delightful surprises. To truly learn and grow from these experiences, we must relinquish our need for control and allow the relationship to unfold naturally. True love emerges only when the ego fades away.

We meet our twin flame only when we are prepared to shed our false selves and embrace our authentic identity. This transformation marks the end of our familiar world. Only then can we open ourselves to love. Importantly, we don’t need to be in a relationship or physically with our twin flame to achieve this; we simply need to accept our truth to unlock new worlds and dimensions we may have forgotten existed—the dimension of love.

The journey is often easier with a twin flame for one simple reason: the attraction is irresistible, and we fall in love with a perfect mirror that reflects our innermost selves. While this mirroring can be captivating, it also has the potential for destruction and self-destruction—the death of the ego.

Being with a twin flame is, at this moment, the most exhilarating and inspiring relationship we can have. The level of understanding we share surpasses anything we've previously experienced, allowing us to live with joy and love. Our intentions are pure, and we find ourselves deeply in love. The honeymoon phase feels nearly perfect compared to past relationships, prompting dreams of a shared future.

When we commit our souls to another—whether they are our twin flame or not—an inner awareness and determination awaken within us, paving the way for the ego's dismantling. From that moment forward, we resolve to be truthful with each other. Deceiving them, or anyone else means deceiving ourselves. It’s a different kind of truth that we must acknowledge.

In the presence of a twin flame, all our fears and insecurities converge, forcing us to confront the truths we've long denied. Denying these truths is futile; however, it's essential to recognize that what we feel—jealousy, anger, possessiveness, control, etc.—is often a distorted version of truth. These emotions are aware of our thoughts and feelings, making it impossible to lie to them. To do so not only means deceiving ourselves but also initiates the process of separation.

The intensity of this situation can be overwhelming, as we confront our fears and demons alongside our twin flame. It becomes a tumultuous dance of inner struggles. We reflect on both their strengths and weaknesses, and our reactions to these challenges will shape the future of the relationship. It's comforting to remember that both fears and demons are illusions, distracting us from our true essence as beings of love and light.

Accepting our truth may initially feel like a sign of weakness. The ego resists its demise, alert to the threat of change. By admitting feelings of jealousy, even when we logically understand that our twin flame would never betray us, we confront our ego's defensiveness. The ego will fight to maintain control, as it is adept at self-preservation, albeit not through genuine intelligence.

Moreover, once we acknowledge something we’ve previously denied, we can only allow ourselves to feel that emotion. Summoning the courage to do so often strips us of our usual means of self-expression through language.

For instance, when I acknowledge feelings of jealousy—even when there’s no logical basis for it, and I know my twin flame would never betray my trust—and choose not to react, I can no longer maintain the narrative that “I’ve never been jealous.” This acknowledgment is merely one example of what can occur. Finding the bravery to admit these feelings, even if just to ourselves, and having the patience to navigate through the overwhelming emotion of jealousy is crucial in our journey toward love.

This phase calls for silence, meditation, and self-reflection as we adapt to a new way of being.

Unfortunately, this step is often challenging. Confronting such emotions can leave us feeling physically drained and may even appear as depression. However, we are neither weak nor depressed; we are simply learning new ways to live and feel. If we can humbly accept our imperfections, two magical things will unfold: first, we will realize that we are not defined by these flaws but rather by patterns learned in childhood; second, those emotions will diminish in strength, allowing us to easily release them if they arise again.

I also observe some confusion regarding the duration of relationships with twin flames. They may choose to stay or not. For twin flames to remain together, both must engage in this process of truth and address their emotions. One or both individuals may choose to continue lying to themselves, not out of malice but as a self-defense mechanism that has served them until now. The choice of which path to take is deeply personal. Sometimes, twin flames may not be ready for long-term reunion, as they need to achieve a level of consciousness necessary for experiencing true love. Many are not.

While romantic love and relationships are beautiful aspects of life, there is no guarantee that someone will remain in love or partnership for a lifetime. We are here to experience life and love, to dance, sing, create, and support each other's growth. Occasionally, people need to continue their journey alone, and we must honor their decision to move on if that is what they choose. True love cannot exist without the freedom to let go.

Given the current state of collective consciousness, it is likely that not many individuals will remain with their twin flame. However, it's essential to recognize that collective consciousness can shift and elevate at any moment, opening the door to new possibilities. When this shift occurs, we will come to realize that love transcends personal gain and fulfillment; instead, it is about embracing each other with acceptance and allowing freedom to flourish within the relationship. Contrary to the belief held by many readers, it is indeed possible for twin flames to remain together. However, it's crucial to consider each individual’s life mission and the unique purpose they came to fulfill in this world. The essence of the soul is freedom, and it must continue to thrive in that state.

These articles are crafted to share insights, wisdom, and knowledge that can help others achieve a clearer understanding of their circumstances. They are not meant to impose uniformity on everyone's experiences, as no one knows your journey better than you do. How you choose to navigate and grow through these experiences will significantly influence the outcomes you encounter. If you carry the belief that your twin flame will leave you after your initial meeting, you are likely to manifest that very scenario. This same principle applies to your beliefs about finding the job you desire; your mindset shapes your reality.

Considering the present challenges of our egocentric society and the generally low level of collective consciousness, the appearance of a twin flame in your life serves as a catalyst, urging you to confront and dismantle the world as it currently exists. This transformative process is an opportunity for profound personal growth, allowing you to become a better version of yourself. Therefore, rejoice in having met your twin flame and make the most of this connection. Regardless of what may transpire in the future, practice letting go of attachments and continue to love them unconditionally; the bond you share is eternal and transcends time and space. We remain forever intertwined, even if circumstances change.

At times, the act of letting go can be as straightforward as overcoming the impulse to control everything and everyone around you. Remember, you are the first person who deserves the freedom to express your true self, so we cannot expect anything less from those we love. Love, at its core, is about freedom and acceptance—allowing both yourself and your twin flame to be fully authentic without fear of judgment or constraint. By embracing this mindset, you create a nurturing environment where both of you can thrive and evolve, ultimately leading to a deeper, more fulfilling connection.