TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

The intensity of the twin flame connection often leads one partner to flee from the relationship, a phase known as the runner/chaser dynamic. This can make it difficult to stay together for extended periods. Despite the physical distance, twin flames still maintain a deep connection through telepathy and empathy.

The runner experiences soul shock but in a different way than the chaser. For the chaser, it’s an emotionally turbulent time filled with anger and confusion as they watch their twin flame seemingly disregard their shared spiritual journey and destiny.

Runners tend to enjoy the chase, as it triggers their healing process. However, the chaser often feels frustrated, exhausted, and confused by the runner’s retreat. As the energetic flow between them shifts, twin flames, who share the same vibrational frequency, can sense each other's growth.

There is a sense of inner freedom for the chaser when they stop chasing, focusing on their growth through surrender. This withdrawal allows the runner the space to reflect on what’s happening in the relationship.

When the chaser ceases to pursue, the runner begins to miss the chase and feels a sense of longing. This period of separation, though painful, is often a hidden blessing, as it allows both partners to grow and heal.

The runner may start to realize the depth of the chaser’s feelings and fear they will be forgotten or left behind. This longing is part of the soul lessons they need to learn. If the runner has tried to replace the connection with distractions, they may come to realize that such replacements are not as fulfilling as the authentic bond with their twin flame.

The overwhelming dynamic between the runner and the chaser is a key aspect of the twin-flame relationship. Before the relationship can truly evolve, one partner typically withdraws, leaving the other heartbroken. In time, the chaser questions why the runner fled and what they could have done wrong. This article explores the runner’s perspective.

Why Do Twin Flames Run?

To understand why twin flames run, it’s essential to recognize that they are often at different levels of self-awareness. One twin is typically more self-aware, while the other may be spiritually unaware, living unconsciously and driven by instincts rather than reflection. When the runner flees, they may not even know why, acting on instinct rather than conscious reasoning. This behavior is especially painful for the chaser, who remains emotionally invested.

The Runner’s Perspective

The truth is, the runner doesn’t run because they don’t love the chaser—it’s often because they do. The love they feel is new and overwhelming, and their instinct is to escape it. The chaser may feel devastated by the runner’s departure, but over time, they may come to understand that the runner’s flight is driven by fear, not lack of love.

Soul Shock in Twin Flame Relationships

Meeting a twin flame is a profound, soul-shaking experience. The connection can feel intense and even obsessive. Many people meeting their twin flames for the first time in their lifetime experience a deep shock in their souls. While both twins are likely affected, the more conscious twin may be better equipped to navigate the situation. The chaser tends to confront the situation head-on, eager to deepen the bond, while the runner is overwhelmed by the rapid changes and retreats out of fear.

Fear of Change

Not all twin flames wake up to their spiritual purpose at the same time. One twin is usually ahead of the other, acting as a catalyst for change. For the twin who is behind, the challenge of confronting this change can be overwhelming, leading to the runner’s flight. The fear of this transformation is often the core reason behind the runner’s behavior.

How Does the Twin Flame Chaser Feel?

The experience is often brutal and painful, and at times, it can feel like an eternity. While not every twin flame relationship goes through a separation phase (some may even skip it), it’s crucial to recognize that it’s all part of the journey and ultimately doesn’t matter in the grand scheme.

What Happens When the Twin Flame Chaser Gives Up?

The primary reason some twins run is because their chaser doesn’t stop pursuing them. So, if you "give up" on your twin flame relationship, you’re surrendering to the Universe and the twin flame journey itself. The runner will feel this shift. After separating, the blame game may begin, but this isn’t the end.

You may eventually reunite, leading to the searching phase, followed by the realization and ultimately union. Throughout this process, you’re learning and growing, especially in terms of self-love and navigating difficult lessons. The ultimate reward is union with your twin flame.

Our higher selves are ahead of us, guiding us toward union. Connecting with your higher self accelerates growth and understanding. The process isn’t as mysterious as some may claim, but it is a transformative journey toward becoming the best version of yourself.

Yes, the lessons are painful, but they’re valuable. After all, what life lesson worth learning doesn’t hurt in some way? The twin flame journey isn’t easy, but it can be made easier to understand with the right perspective.

How to Stop Chasing: Twin Flame Chaser Surrender

Acknowledge that chasing isn’t working: Whether you’ve been in this pattern for one day, one month, or ten years if chasing hasn’t resulted in the union, it’s time to recognize it’s not working. If it had, you’d already be in a relationship with your twin flame. Chasing often doesn’t succeed, except in certain playful or shallow contexts.

Stand still: Accept that the connection is real and maybe with your twin flame, but trying to force the relationship isn’t helping. You have nothing to prove. If your twin is running, it doesn’t mean they aren’t your twin but chasing will only reinforce their fear and resistance. Instead, honor their boundaries. If your twin says the relationship isn’t happening, respect that and listen to their reasons, which could include not feeling the love, being in another relationship, or feeling overwhelmed by the intensity of the connection.

Respect your twin’s emotional space: It’s common for one twin to feel the connection more strongly, triggering fear or denial in the other. This dynamic often shifts over time, with one twin being more empathetic, typically the divine feminine in many cases. However, it’s important to remember that twin flames are not always meant to enter a traditional relationship right away. Sometimes, the connection may evolve into something different, based on personal growth or a shared mission.

Accept the evolving nature of union: The way twin flames come together and what their union looks like is constantly transforming. Some twins come into this life to focus on a working or mission-based connection, or to create a new kind of relationship that doesn’t fit traditional frameworks. Twin flames are here to redefine love and break down boundaries around it, and that may take time.

The Twin Flame Journey: Embracing Unconditional Love

The twin flame journey is one of unconditional love, which is deeply enriching. However, it’s important to understand that there is no clear roadmap for what this love will look like, and it may require flexibility and compromise. That doesn’t mean the journey can’t evolve into something profound and meaningful, but be aware that your twin may not be ready to embrace it as fully as you are. Do not try to force the process.

Honor Your Twin’s Truth

The twin flame connection can feel overwhelming, especially when it comes too quickly. If your twin expresses the need for space or time away from the relationship, it’s crucial to listen and respect their needs. There could be many reasons for this, such as emotional overwhelm or the intensity of the connection triggering fears. One twin might need time to process, while the other may feel more connected, and this can switch over time.

Speak Your Truth

When you are in a balanced state, share your truth with your twin, but trust your intuition on how much to reveal. While your twin may already be aware of what you’re expressing on a soul level, speaking your truth won’t necessarily change their perspective if they are in the "runner" phase. However, it provides clarity and closure for you, and over time, it may shed light on the situation for your twin. Be direct and compassionate, and if needed, seek guidance from Archangel Gabriel for help with communication.

Move Into Acceptance

Acceptance means respecting your twin’s boundaries without bitterness. It may be difficult, but this period is a great time for self-work, self-love, and examining the triggers that arise from your twin’s rejection. Use this time to explore your own awakening and spiritual gifts. If your twin has requested no contact or a break, honor that without undermining it. Trust that your twin is capable of their growth, and don’t interfere with their learning process, as this may cause them to repeat their patterns.

Avoid Manipulation

Don’t attempt to manipulate the situation, assume your twin is wrong, or work behind the scenes to influence their behavior. While you share the same soul signature, you are different individuals with distinct experiences, backgrounds, and needs. Your twin may need to go through a process to heal. Instead of trying to control the situation, focus on your own healing, self-care, and energy work. Connect with others who have walked this path, as their experiences can help you as you navigate your journey. When the time is right, helpful people will show up naturally.

Deepen Your Self-Awareness

Understand that you trigger your twin when you chase. Just as your twin may have triggers, you likely have your own. Finding inner peace and surrendering to the divine process is key. Healing your inner child is vital for both twins to resolve the wounds that lead to chasing or running behaviors. Embrace your spiritual growth and healing, as it directly impacts your connection with your twin. Remember, you are a mirror for each other, and what you experience internally is often reflected in your twin.

Acknowledge the Runner Within You

Both the chaser and the runner exist within you, often due to early childhood bonding wounds. These wounds can create anxious or avoidant attachment patterns. To break free from the chasing mode, healing your inner child and embracing divine surrender are essential. Inner peace and self-love will help release the attachment to the running dynamic and bring balance.

Cultivate Detachment

Finding detachment takes time and work. This space can be achieved through mindfulness, meditation, spiritual practices, energy healing, prayer, and deep self-reflection. Twin flames are here to heal the collective, and their shared energy allows them to hold vast amounts of light. Reclaiming your power and avoiding codependency is crucial for both your personal growth and the health of the relationship.

Do Not Reject the Connection

Rejecting your twin flame’s rejection by becoming a runner yourself only perpetuates negativity. It damages the connection, making it harder for anything positive to grow. Be mindful of not mirroring your twin’s behavior. Instead, find compassion for what your twin may be going through and hold space for yourself in love and compassion.

Be Kind to Yourself

The twin flame connection is a new and intense experience, particularly as more twins awaken during this phase of ascension. This connection can trigger deep soul-searching and awakening, but remember, you’ve done nothing wrong. As you grow, you will do better, and when you know better, you’ll act accordingly.

Stay Open to Possibilities

Twin flames are powerful manifestors. When your twin is ready to connect, it will happen naturally, as long as you are not closed off by resentment or wounding. Vulnerability and openness are key to the process, and angelic and spiritual support is always available to guide you. Trust that your twin flame union is part of a greater divine plan.

Call in the Love

It’s common to want love only from your twin, but true love is abundant and available from many sources. By clearing the blocks to receive love and recognizing your worthiness, you raise your vibration, which supports your healing and personal growth. This process not only helps you move forward but also attracts your twin flame and others into your life.

Embrace Your Twin Flame Mission

You are here for a divine purpose, and embracing your twin flame mission lights up your energy. By taking aligned steps and embracing risk, you move closer to your twin and your true purpose. When you are focused on your mission, you are no longer chasing or running. You are in divine alignment, flowing with the universe—this is the essence of the twin flame union. This connection flows not just between you and your twin, but between all of us.