TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

The Twin Flame Runner-Chaser Phase

While deeply painful, the runner-chaser phase in a twin flame journey marks a transformative period. Almost all twin flames encounter this dynamic, often resulting in a period of separation that can last days, months, or even years.

Twin flames share a unique energetic resonance, with one embodying a more masculine energy and the other a more feminine energy—an alignment that isn’t tied to gender. This contrast forms a complete mirror between them; despite sharing the same love, each twin experiences their connection differently.

Upon meeting, twin flames feel an instant, magnetic bond, along with a profound sense of closeness and unity. This feeling is marked by intense love and compassion, unlike anything they've felt before, leading them to constantly think of each other and crave each other's presence.

Each twin flame relationship has its unique circumstances. Some may be in other relationships, face age gaps, cultural differences, or physical distance. These factors add complexity to the connection from the beginning.

Regardless of these challenges, they will connect in some form—whether through an online friendship, a physical relationship, or deep emotional ties. Both twins experience intense feelings of unconditional love and passion, regardless of the initial form their connection takes.

Divine Masculine

One twin, often carrying masculine energy, becomes overwhelmed by the connection's intensity, triggering the runner-chaser dynamic. It’s worth noting that energy roles aren’t gender-specific; while we’ll use “he” for simplicity, the masculine twin may be of any gender.

This masculine twin is often overwhelmed by fears: the love’s intensity, the rapid progression, or the possibility that it’s too good to be true. He may fear sacrificing the comfort of his current life, prompting him to avoid confronting these fears and take on the role of the ‘runner.’ Distancing behaviors like blocking, ghosting, or emotional withdrawal are common ways he may attempt to escape the connection.

The runner may also shift focus to another relationship or engage in distractions—work, addictions, or other behaviors—to push away the love and avoid facing wounds that this connection brings to light for healing.

Divine Feminine

On the other hand, the twin with feminine energy, often more spiritually aware, feels a readiness to embrace this love. She knows the connection is divinely inspired and is prepared to leap. While we’ll refer to this energy as “she,” the feminine twin can be of any gender.

The divine feminine is willing to make sacrifices for this love, even if it risks her self-respect or dignity. When the runner distances himself, she is left feeling confused and heartbroken, hoping her unconditional love will bring him back. Unable to let go, she becomes the ‘chaser,’ needing closure and answers. Yet, the more she chases, the more he runs.The Twin Flame Runner-Chaser Phase

While deeply painful, the runner-chaser phase in a twin flame journey marks a transformative period. Almost all twin flames encounter this dynamic, often resulting in a period of separation that can last days, months, or even years.

Twin flames share a unique energetic resonance, with one embodying a more masculine energy and the other a more feminine energy—an alignment that isn’t tied to gender. This contrast forms a complete mirror between them; despite sharing the same love, each twin experiences their connection differently.

Upon meeting, twin flames feel an instant, magnetic bond, along with a profound sense of closeness and unity. This feeling is marked by intense love and compassion, unlike anything they've felt before, leading them to constantly think of each other and crave each other's presence.

Each twin flame relationship has its unique circumstances. Some may be in other relationships, face age gaps, cultural differences, or physical distance. These factors add complexity to the connection from the beginning.

Regardless of these challenges, they will connect in some form—whether through an online friendship, a physical relationship, or deep emotional ties. Both twins experience intense feelings of unconditional love and passion, regardless of the initial form their connection takes.

Divine Masculine

One twin, often carrying masculine energy, becomes overwhelmed by the connection's intensity, triggering the runner-chaser dynamic. It’s worth noting that energy roles aren’t gender-specific; while we’ll use “he” for simplicity, the masculine twin may be of any gender.

This masculine twin is often overwhelmed by fears: the love’s intensity, the rapid progression, or the possibility that it’s too good to be true. He may fear sacrificing the comfort of his current life, prompting him to avoid confronting these fears and take on the role of the ‘runner.’ Distancing behaviors like blocking, ghosting, or emotional withdrawal are common ways he may attempt to escape the connection.

The runner may also shift focus to another relationship or engage in distractions—work, addictions, or other behaviors—to push away the love and avoid facing wounds that this connection brings to light for healing.

Divine Feminine

On the other hand, the twin with feminine energy, often more spiritually aware, feels a readiness to embrace this love. She knows the connection is divinely inspired and is prepared to leap. While we’ll refer to this energy as “she,” the feminine twin can be of any gender.

The divine feminine is willing to make sacrifices for this love, even if it risks her self-respect or dignity. When the runner distances himself, she is left feeling confused and heartbroken, hoping her unconditional love will bring him back. Unable to let go, she becomes th

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 ‘chaser,’ needing closure and answers. Yet, the more she chases, the more he runs.

The Journey of the Twin Flame Runner

The twin flame runner believes he’s doing well, feeling content in life, often moving from one unfulfilling relationship to another or staying in a marriage or long-term relationship lacking deep connection. This life keeps him in his comfort zone and control.

When he meets his twin flame, everything changes—he is forced to truly see himself for the first time.

Twin flames mirror each other, reflecting unique qualities, gifts, and also their deepest insecurities, wounds, and fears.

The runner often carries unresolved pain and trauma from past relationships and childhood experiences. Over time, he’s learned to suppress, ignore, and hide this pain, building walls around his heart to protect himself from love.

The Runner Experiences Love

The love he feels for his twin flame breaks down these walls, opening his heart. He feels an overwhelming sense of love and compassion and is drawn to the chaser’s physical, spiritual, and emotional beauty, captivated by her presence.

The runner admires her qualities—her confidence, how she moves, speaks, smiles, and inspires him. He views her as his muse, guide, and light, placing her on a pedestal, unaware that the beauty he sees in her is also a reflection of his own.

Yet, her seeming perfection and their intense connection trigger deep fears within him. She feels almost “too good to be true,” which fills him with anxiety and fear.

The Runner Feels Fear

This connection brings all of the runner’s suppressed pain to the surface for healing, leaving him feeling vulnerable and out of control.

His fears become heightened, particularly around rejection and abandonment, stemming from old wounds, often related to childhood trauma. These wounds shape his interactions and self-view, making it hard for him to get close to anyone, especially his twin flame.

The runner fears intimacy, afraid that if his twin flame sees his true self, she may not love him. He fears commitment, worrying that he’ll end up abandoned. Vulnerability scares him as he sees it as weakness, fearing others will take advantage of him or see him as inadequate. His lack of self-worth convinces him he’s not good enough for his twin flame or deserving of love.

He also fears losing control, as his ego urges him to control every aspect of his life. This love makes him feel like he’s losing his identity, so his actions are often driven by fear.

The Runner Withdraws

Unprepared to face the demands of this connection, he runs from it. Believing the connection itself is causing him pain, he associates his discomfort with the chaser. The runner doesn’t flee fromhime, but from himself. Since he doesn’t feel worthy, he rejects the love before she can reject him.

Hiding behind a mask, he pretends not to care, suppressing his feelings. He may ghost, block, or ignore her, evenlieg about his emotions or acting indifferent to push her away.

In other relationships, however, he feels different and in control. These partners don’t mirror him, so he can avoid facing himself. He may stay in an existing relationship, get back with an ex, or start a new one, all in search of safety and ease. If not in another relationship, he’ll find other ways to distance himself, making him feel in control once more.

When the Chaser Stops Chasing

Eventually, the chaser stops pursuing him, initiating a separation. At first, he feels relief, but soon realizes he can’t stop thinking about her. He misses her presence and the energy she brought to his life.

This realization sends him into an intense soul shock, often accompanied by isolation and spiritual depression, known as the  night of the soul.” He feels disconnected and hopeless, aware that his actions caused the separation, which amplifies his unworthiness and regret. While he may try to fill this emptiness with distractions, nothing can replace the void left by his twin flame. Now that his insecurities have surfaced, he can’t hide from them, nor can he return to who he once was.

Although he longs to be near his twin flame, he understands he can’t move forward until he heals. Until he faces and heals these wounds, he’s left to love her from a distance.

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The Runner's Healing Journey

The twin flame runner deeply loves the chaser, yet his struggle is an internal one—a battle between ego-driven fears and the love that reflects his true, divine essence.

The pain and challenges he faces are essential steps on his path to becoming the divine masculine, guiding him toward spiritual awakening and growth. This journey is where he matures, spiritually and emotionally.

As he gradually emerges from the darkness, he begins to uncover his true self, recognizing himself as an eternal, divine being. Through this awakening, he transforms, shifting his view of himself and the world to one grounded in love rather than fear.

As he heals, he discovers a sense of wholeness and learns to love himself unconditionally. This growth brings an end to the runner-chaser phase as he moves toward reunion with his feminine, drawing closer to union.