TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

Embarking on the journey of your Flame might be one of the most challenging and emotionally intense relationships you'll encounter in this lifetime. This article aims to elucidate the reasons behind the experience of twin flame separation and provide guidance on how to progress toward achieving your divine union.

What Is Twin Flame Separation?

Twin flame separation represents a crucial stage in the twin flame journey, acting as a catalyst for self-growth. Typically, this phase involves multiple separation episodes, where one individual assumes the role of the 'runner,' and the other becomes the 'chaser.' Although a twin flame couple may eventually reunite after a period of separation, this cycle often repeats itself.

The separation phase in a Twin Flame relationship can manifest as a combination of the following:

Emotional Distance: One person becomes emotionally distant or even blocks contact with their twin.

Physical Distance: One person relocates or moves away from their twin.

Involvement of a Third Person: Karmic and soulmate relationships may occur, even with a twin flame present.

While many describe the separation phase as a painful process, it is, in fact, a positive indication that your soul is prepared to release old behavioral patterns and undergo evolution. Further on, we will explore the benefits that can be derived from this experience.

Various symptoms are associated with twin flame separation, along with signs hinting at a potential reunion. We will delve into these indicators and outline two key actions you can take to facilitate the return of your twin flame.

Lastly, common questions such as 'How do I know if they are my real twin?' and 'Should I date other people during the separation phase?' will be addressed in detail.

What Occurs During Twin Flame Separation?

When separation transpires, twins may cope with it in distinct ways. Typically, the chaser persistently pursues their twin, seeking to re-establish the connection, leading to feelings of exhaustion. This pursuit often stems from a search for external love rather than recognizing the universal source within, above, and below.

Conversely, the runner tends to continue their routine and may ignore attempts at contact from their twin flame. This outward indifference doesn't necessarily mean they're devoid of inner pain; they may, however, numb themselves to emotions, finding it easier to act bluntly or sever contact.

In my personal experience as a chaser, persistent attempts to reach out often pushed my twin further away, creating more fractures in our relationship. Moments of hopelessness prompted impulsive actions, like showing up unannounced at his doorstep. Such endeavors, driven by ego, proved futile.

Separation commonly occurs when a couple is ready for the next phase of soul expansion. Twins often channel the pain and emotions of separation into significant endeavors such as adventures, new jobs, or creative projects. Ultimately, the pain experienced during the separation phase undergoes transmutation into a higher understanding of oneself, divine love, and the world.

Causes of Twin Flame Separation

Numerous factors contribute to twin flame separation, with each twin flame journey possessing a distinct and highly variable path for each couple. The experience may entail multiple separation stages, a prolonged and intense period of being apart, or even a perpetual absence of complete union. Divine union might be achieved after years of back-and-forth struggles. Here are seven primary causes of twin flame separation:

Need for New Insight:

Your twin flame serves as your mirror soul, reflecting your shadow side continuously, which can be both exhausting and triggering. A phase of separation may be necessary for gaining fresh insights. Realignment with your energy during this time can lead to a renewed understanding of yourself, your partner, and the relationship.

Soul Growth:

Your souls may require additional lessons before entering a sustainable, long-term partnership. This could involve experiencing other relationships, breakups, and life lessons before being prepared for union with your twin flame.

Divine Love Experience:

While a twin flame union offers intense love, experiencing the love of the divine can be incomparable. If reliance on your twin flame's love becomes predominant, the universe may initiate a separation phase as a wake-up call. This separation aims to highlight the impermanence of everything except the divine love flowing through everyone and everything.

Emotional Healing Time:

Emotional triggers and wounds, especially those stemming from early attachment patterns, may take considerable time to heal. Both partners may need time to become emotionally available for the twin flame union.

Co-dependency Issues:

Co-dependent behaviors often emerge after the initial honeymoon stage, indicating a lack of self-love and an inability to communicate needs without fear of relationship consequences. A separation phase allows both partners to reassess their self-worth and regain personal power.

Timing Mismatch:

The timing of union is not within your control; it follows your soul's divinely chosen path. As Florence Scovel Shinn stated, it's the universe's will, not yours. The right timing for a twin flame union is determined by both partners' paths.

Final Lesson Learned:

Some twin flames may not come into union in this lifetime. After learning a final lesson, reunification might occur for some, while others may have completed all necessary lessons for this lifetime, leading to a conscious choice to part ways.

Is Separation a 'Bad Thing'?

Despite the painful nature of the separation stage, positive experiences can arise, including opportunities to enhance self-worth and self-love, reflect on and heal emotional behavior patterns, channel pain into personal or creative projects, heal the inner child, build resilience, trust, and faith, and access higher levels of divine love and support.

Twin Flame Separation Symptoms:

During a separation phase, signs and symptoms of an energetic connection may persist, such as experiencing synchronicities, vivid dreams about the twin flame, an overwhelming sense of longing or loss, a feeling that no one else compares romantically, and substantial internal growth.

The question remains: How do you reunite with your twin flame during this separation stage?

How to Reunite with Your Twin Flame

Reuniting with your twin flame involves two essential keys.

Focus on Your Personal Growth and High Vibration State:

While it may be challenging during the stages of longing for your twin flame, dedicating time to focus on your personal goals and growth can be highly rewarding. From my own experience, my twin flame consistently returned when I was in a high-vibe, flow state. This typically followed months of self-care, healthy nourishment, engaging in creative projects, participating in broader community activities, and experiencing a sense of energy and passion for life. Whenever my sole focus was on reuniting with my twin flame, it often resulted in tumultuous reunions marked by tears and egos clashing.

Surrender and Accept Lack of Control Over the Situation:

Embrace the idea that if a reunion is meant to happen, it will. Until that potential day, extract lessons and blessings from your relationship and concentrate on living your best life independently of your twin flame. Surrendering to this process involves letting go of resistance, and allowing positive energy to flow into your life. The 'good' that follows may manifest as the return of your twin flame, a remarkable experience, or even the entrance of someone else. Trust that the Universe is always working for your benefit and will deliver what is meant for you.

During my online research, individuals shared their experiences of coming into union with their twin flames. Some emphasized the importance of healing, self-love, and maintaining a high vibrational frequency for achieving union on all levels. Others stressed the significance of inner work, staying present, practicing mindfulness, and detaching from the mind, allowing the reunion to happen naturally without specific discussions or expectations.

Identifying Signs of Imminent Reunion

You may have already encountered signs hinting at a potential reunion with your twin flame. These signs could include sharing a song that you hear everywhere, catching the scent of their perfume, or repeatedly encountering objects related to your twin. Additional indicators of a near reunion may involve feeling positive, vibrant, and in a flow state, experiencing frequent dreams about your twin, having random thoughts about them, sensing intuitive nudges about imminent contact, feeling positive and loving emotions, and reaching a point where you no longer feel a desperate 'need' for them in your life.

Determining if Someone Is Your Twin Flame

Distinguishing a twin flame connection from other relationships often centers on the intensity of the bond. Respondents in an online community emphasized that a twin flame bond surpasses the intensity of other connections experienced throughout one's life. While personal intuition can play a significant role in recognizing a twin flame, some individuals receive unexpected confirmation from external sources, such as a medium.

Navigating Other Connections During Twin Flame Separation

If drawn to explore other relationships during a twin flame separation, it's advisable to remain open. However, the return of your twin flame is not solely determined by your will; it involves the alignment of three energies—the desires of your soul, the desires of their soul, and the greater plan of the Universe. Union may take years, and other karmic or soulmate connections can impart valuable life lessons, preparing you for potential union with your twin flame in the future.

In conclusion, the separation stage in a twin flame relationship poses significant challenges with no set timeline. The 'chaser/runner' dynamic may repeat itself before achieving divine union. Key signs and symptoms can help sense the potential return of your twin flame. Taking two crucial actions—focusing on personal growth and surrendering to the lack of control over the situation—can contribute to healing the relationship and inviting your twin flame back into your life. Remember, if it's meant to be, it will be. In the meantime, relish the journey of expansion, growth, love, learning, and becoming the person you were destined to be.