TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

Expressing "I love you" is perfectly fine, but as Lesli Doares, a marriage coach and the author of Blueprint for a Lasting Marriage, points out, it may not carry the same meaning for both partners. Whispering more personalized and specific endearments demonstrates your attentiveness to your spouse and their actions, according to Doares.

If you're not regularly uttering these five phrases, your relationship may be at risk:

"Thank you."

Psychotherapist and relationship coach Toni Coleman emphasizes the importance of gratitude, stating that it's a universal need in relationships. Saying "thank you" signifies that you acknowledge and appreciate your partner's contributions to your life and the relationship. It also provides positive reinforcement, motivating your partner to continue their efforts because their actions are recognized and valued.

"I appreciate what you do for us."

Consider this phrase a close relative of "thank you." According to Coleman, it's another way to convey your appreciation for your partner and the positive impact their contributions have on your life. These affirmations are the foundation of happy relationships, helping you navigate challenging times, maintain strength as individuals and as a couple, and strengthen your bond, leading to a deeper desire for closeness and intimacy.

"I've got your back."

Coleman suggests that everyone needs reassurance, especially during the challenging periods that marriages often face. This reassurance can be particularly crucial when your partner makes a mistake. By offering this reassurance, you show that your feelings haven't wavered, and you continue to love and support them, even when they've let you down.

"You're perfect just the way you are."

In your wedding vows, you promised unconditional love, and when you say these words, you're reaffirming that commitment, according to Coleman. Unconditional love is essential in intimate relationships, as it prevents partners from viewing each other negatively or losing respect due to mistakes, ultimately preserving the bond between you.

"I care about your feelings and needs and value what you have to say."

Coleman stresses the importance of partners feeling heard by each other. Even when you don't always agree, fully listening and accepting their perspective remains crucial, especially when dealing with differing feelings or proposed solutions to an issue. This active listening is a crucial first step toward compromise and finding mutually beneficial solutions, which are essential for successful relationships.