TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

You've encountered someone who appears to be your soulmate, possibly even what spiritual communities refer to as a "twin flame." However, there are three indicators that they might be a harmful "karmic soulmate."

Twin flames and karmic soulmates are fundamentally distinct. In the realm of spirituality and communal beliefs, karmic soulmates are perceived as individuals with whom we share a connection from past lives, individuals with whom we have "unfinished business" and lingering energetic ties. These spiritual ideologies assert that our souls can instantly recognize them and are drawn to them, often resulting in a profound chemistry. While such relationships are believed to bring valuable life lessons, such as enhancing self-worth and establishing boundaries, they can deteriorate rapidly. Regardless of your convictions, it is crucial to differentiate between a potentially fulfilling connection with a "divine counterpart" and a toxic relationship with a narcissist labeled as a karmic soulmate. Here are three concrete indications that you might be entangled with a harmful karmic partner:

The relationship is emotionally tumultuous, leaving you drained instead of nourished. You may experience an intense "twin-flame" like connection with a karmic or narcissistic partner, but the relationship seldom lasts long-term despite your efforts. Initially, you may experience an immediate, larger-than-life connection, but you find yourselves in a cycle of breaking up and making up. The physical chemistry may sizzle, but emotional stability is replaced by chaos and addiction. Heated, repetitive arguments seem never-ending, and your self-esteem dwindles. This relationship depletes you daily. Many individuals misinterpret this suffering as a sign of fighting for a love worth preserving, rather than holding onto something that will ultimately harm them. A healthy partner should inspire your growth and strengthen your gifts and strengths, not burden you with grief. Instead of aiding you in achieving your goals and life mission, like a true twin flame, a toxic partner can leave you drained and perpetually on edge, making it impossible to focus on your greater purpose.

They intentionally manipulate your thoughts and engage in mind games. "Karmic" partners with toxic characteristics often alternate between showering you with excessive attention and affection and promising an ideal relationship, which is a form of manipulation. They withhold their emotions, gaslight you when you express your feelings, stonewall you during constructive discussions, and fabricate arguments out of thin air. They show disrespect and contempt, neglect your needs, and make you feel unreasonable for seeking the bare minimum. While the twin flame concept suggests a "runner and chaser" dynamic, it can become toxic if you are pursuing an illusion created by a partner who doesn't truly exist.

Twin flame beliefs include the idea that they help trigger and heal wounds, fears, and traumas by bringing them to the surface. The journey may include a "night of the soul," a final purification before reunion with the twin flame. However, if you are dealing with a "karmic" or narcissistic partner, they will indeed bring up past wounds, but they intend to aggravate you and create new traumas. These toxic partners do not facilitate the healing or purging of past traumas, fears, or insecurities, as twin flames are said to do; instead, they exacerbate them, and the "night of the soul" seems never-ending. True healing only begins once you have disengaged from such a person.

They exhibit narcissistic traits and behaviors. One of the most effective ways to discern whether you're in an unhealthy relationship, as opposed to one with a twin flame or a supportive partner, is their lack of empathy for your feelings. They display a sense of entitlement by belittling and degrading you. They aim to overshadow your radiance, and they harbor jealousy towards your achievements while failing to provide the commitment and attention you deserve, instead exploiting you. Conversely, twin flames will encourage your positive growth through nurturing means; you'll find yourself inspired to become your best self when you're with them. A healthy partner or a "twin flame" will guide you toward what truly fulfills and empowers you, rather than deflating your spirit. They will help you move closer to your life's genuine purpose and often collaborate with you to make a positive impact on the world and contribute to the greater good. Your twin flame will provide a sense of safety, making your relationship feel like a long-awaited homecoming rather than navigating a perilous territory. Their love serves as an inspiration, not a force that tears you down.