TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

It doesn't have to be like this.) When you browse through Instagram using hashtags like #pickacard or #twinflames, you'll come across numerous posts aimed at guiding people toward uniting with their divine partners. With enough exposure, you might even start considering yourself an expert on the subject. There are countless self-proclaimed gurus and oracle readers available for consultation, leading you to believe that the person who once made you feel uneasy at the gym is your destined partner.

During vulnerable moments, such as when you develop feelings for someone or encounter a person who significantly impacts your life, you naturally seek advice and support. Initially, you turn to friends and family, but often the internet and social media become your go-to sources. Being spiritual also means being in search, as spirituality and awakening involve seeking new experiences, emotions, ideas, and perspectives that help make sense of the life you lead—a life that includes mundane aspects like taxes and fast food chains.

However, due to this vulnerability, self-help authors, tarot readers, psychics, and gurus have found a lucrative niche: Twin Flames—a concept that suggests there is another version of our soul out there, waiting to disrupt our lives and make us fall deeply in love. Over the past fifteen years, this idea has gained immense popularity, coinciding with the rise of social media platforms. It has become so prevalent in the spiritual culture that people readily immerse themselves in this world, accepting everything they're told as fact.

Maybe twin flames do exist. I, too, believed I met one when I was 23, only to meet someone else at 26 who made the previous person seem insignificant. However, "maybe" is not equivalent to "definitely," and there are valid reasons for this uncertainty. No one truly knows what a twin flame is supposed to be. While there may be some commonalities most people agree on, the origin, purpose, connection, details, and processes surrounding twin flames remain subjects of debate—a far from normal situation. Imagine a scenario where researchers, wildlife experts, scientists, and the general public fervently argue online for hours about penguins versus seagulls. Picture a researcher dedicating an entire YouTube channel to disproving the existence of penguins, claiming they are just bulkier, clumsier versions of seagulls.

The most crucial aspects of what defines a twin flame are precisely the elements that lack consensus or proof. Certainly, you can encounter someone who can change your life, and yes, you can experience a challenging connection, and even end up in a romantic relationship with that person—obviously! The essence of being human lies in our emotions, and to have them influenced by unconditional love in any form is a blessing, even if it occasionally resembles a nightmare. However, what often occurs is that we take this general idea and turn it into a label. We convince ourselves, "Yes, this person is my twin. They just don't realize it."

This is not romantic; it's an ailment. We force connections to fit a specific narrative, both for ourselves and the other person, while disregarding alternative perspectives because they are deemed "un-spiritual." These self-proclaimed 'experts' on Instagram feed you lies to justify their twin flame connections or to deceive you and take your money. If a tarot reader believes they are in a twin flame relationship, it's only logical for them to make you believe the same, even if your relationship (or theirs) is toxic.

Allow me to provide a few examples before I lose your attention (in case you haven't already left a rude comment or switched to watching a video of a cat enjoying an ice cream cone).

Reality vs Twin Flame:

R — "This guy is unwilling to leave his wife. I should move on and stop waiting for him to change."

TF — "My divine masculine is currently entangled in his karmic situation. I must be patient as he learns his spiritual lesson."

R — "She blocked me on social media. That's quite immature. I don't need this. I deserve better."

TF — "Oh, she needs space because this is a crucial phase in our journey. Her actions must mean she genuinely cares about me if our love is overwhelming for her right now."

R — "My partner is struggling with alcohol addiction and shows no initiative to seek help or improve their health. It seems best for me to move on from this relationship."

TF — "This is just another significant lesson within our twin flame connection. If I send him healing energy and connect with him in the 5D realm, he will overcome his dependency."

R — "I haven't had any contact with her for over four years. I think it's time for me to focus on myself."

TF — "The reason for the prolonged separation is that I haven't done enough personal work and healing to establish communication with them."

In all these examples, it becomes evident how one can rationalize a negative situation simply by labeling it. The situation is further aggravated when unqualified individuals on the internet suggest that a $90 tarot reading or a $400+ course is the solution for your twin flame connection, even if their work mostly plagiarizes "The Power of Now" book (I'm looking at you, Twin Flame Allstar from YouTube).

How can anyone provide objective guidance to help people unite with someone they have never met, whose spiritual connection cannot be proven, and whose relationship may be genuinely abusive or toxic? Yet, this happens all the time, perhaps even as we speak. This ailment plagues the spiritual community. Professional tarot readers who claim to channel higher realms and spirit guides deny the existence of twin flames, while elsewhere on the internet, another hundred individuals channeling angels and alternate dimensions proclaim the opposite. How can we trust anyone, and why aren't we relying on ourselves first? Why don't these so-called "gurus" prioritize helping us as individuals and discarding the labels? Why do many of them disregard our connection to our intuition? Why don't these experts conduct their businesses from an objective and grounded perspective?

The reasons may be rooted in money or ignorance. Ultimately, it hardly matters whether they intentionally exploit others or genuinely believe they are doing more good than harm, even if the reality is the opposite. As individuals, we shouldn't rely on impossible information to find happiness, nor should we expect random people from around the world to make our connections work based solely on a label that has only been around for the past few decades (gaining popularity in the mid-2000s).

You are free to believe in twin flames or hold a different interpretation than mine or anyone else's. It doesn't matter whether you support the Yankees or the Red Sox. However, if you claim that baseball is the key to uniting with someone you love and then charge people for it, be prepared to face harsh criticism.

The concept of a "Twin Flame" is meant to represent unconditional love, but that is not exclusive to this concept alone. It applies to spiritual awakening, to us as human beings, and to the growth of our souls. Focusing solely on a label detracts from this because if you remove the label and concentrate on love, much of the suffering you experience will naturally dissipate. Why wouldn't it? Instead of fixating on finding "The One" in a person, you redirect your attention to your own needs and desires. The question shifts from "Are they my Twin Flame?" to "Can I find happiness on my own?"

The latter question is much more empowering, but it doesn't generate income for readers and coaches, nor does it provide immediate comfort. It's an uncomfortable question that lacks a quick and easy answer. However, it is the only inquiry into life and ourselves that truly matters. In comparison, the concept of a twin flame becomes insignificant. If you consistently choose love and if the person in your mind also chooses love, you will come together and grow—that's what sustains a successful relationship. That's what makes someone "The One."

Not a label.

Unfortunately, people try to make sense of the twin flame concept by either denying it altogether or by stating that they do exist but are merely karmic and here solely to facilitate personal growth. However, the same can be said about a narcissist, someone you dated in high school, or someone you currently have a crush on. The label is unnecessary, so there's no need to further divide it as if you were cutting a pizza into 16 slices instead of 8—it's still the same pizza, and if it's from Pizza Hut, it's still going to taste awful. (Yes, Pizza Hut, I'm talking to you.)

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