TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

It is important to grasp the perspective of twin flame runners. It can be easy to feel frustrated during a challenging period of separation or to place blame on your twin counterpart.

The twin flame journey is a spiritual path of self-love, growth, and ascension that leads to a profound and unconditional divine connection known as a union. This path requires a great deal of commitment, primarily to work on your own shadows and personal growth to ascend, which can sometimes feel overwhelming and exhausting. This is why the runner effect occurs.

When faced with a runner situation, you may question whether they still love you and how they are truly feeling. The truth is that there will always be love between these sacred counterparts. However, depending on the stage of their journey towards union when a twin flame becomes a runner, they may be running due to feelings of anxiety, being overwhelmed, or resistance to progressing in their ascension.

What defines a Twin Flame Runner?

Runners are twin flames who either completely avoid the journey or slow down their progress at some point along the way. Some people may not consider avoiders as runners, but I do—they are simply starting the running process early.

The other twin flame assumes the role of the so-called chaser in this dynamic, as they are actively working on themselves and striving to move forward on the path towards union. The runner and chaser dynamic is often misunderstood because the journey involves a roller-coaster of emotions and energies, which can be confusing.

During periods of separation, more often than not, one twin pursues the separation while the other pursues the union. Seen in this context, it may seem that the runner is running away from their twin, while the chaser appears to be chasing after their twin. However, this perspective does not accurately reflect the situation.

The Runner and Chaser Dynamic

Although it may be tempting to take these highly emotional and intense situations personally, the truth is that the runner is not running from their twin; they are running from themselves and the inner work they need to do. The presence of their twin triggers aspects that they either know or sense they must confront, and this can be overwhelming.

I want to emphasize this point because it is crucial: the runner is not running away from their twin! They are attempting to avoid the work they know or feel they need to undertake, and they may have various reasons for doing so, all of which are directly related to their personal, emotional, and spiritual development.

Being a runner is a reflection of the individual rather than the nature of the interaction or the other twin. It indicates vulnerability, a lack of confidence or faith in their abilities, and an inability or unwillingness to make progress on their own. In a spiritual sense, it is a cry for help.

For this reason, as the twin who is often considered the chaser, it is essential to send supportive energy to your runner twin flame—energy characterized by unwavering patience, infinite support, and unconditional love. This is what can help them, and it is also what will aid you on your path toward ascension. Any resentment, grief, or guilt are merely shadows that need to be addressed and resolved.

Does the Twin Flame Runner Love the Chaser?

During the phase of separation, it may be challenging for you to sense or understand it, but your twin flame loves you unconditionally, always. They cannot help but love you because their soul is forever connected to yours. Unfortunately, any perceived lack of love towards you reflects their own lack of self-love.

The flame bond is a sacred energetic connection that cannot be turned off or broken. It is a connection of higher-dimensional, sacred love by its very definition, as twin flames are part of the same higher consciousness into which they merge once union is achieved.

Due to specific details and karmic circumstances unique to each twin flame pair, the depth of this high-vibration love bond may be buried deep within their conscious awareness or closer to the surface. If one twin appears to exhibit a lack of love, the core truth is that they have not yet reached the level of growth that allows conscious awareness of their spiritual truths.

How Does the Twin Flame Runner Feel?

The twin flame dynamic is complex and intense, often causing confusion, frustration, and intense triggering. Part of this experience is what drives the self-development work that leads to ascension and union.

Sometimes, the sheer complexity and magnitude of the self-work required can trigger one of the flames to become a runner. This can happen before they establish physical contact with their counterpart, during the early stages of a relationship, or even after. Regardless of when a twin becomes a runner, they experience similar emotions.

Anxiety

Many twin flames experience intense feelings of anxiety before or after discovering that they are twin flames. In some cases, this anxiety arises from sensing their twin's energy within their energetic field. In other cases, it stems from the absence of their counterpart, even if they initiated the separation.

If they are aware of their twin's energy without realizing that they are on the twin flame journey, it can feel somewhat haunting—a concept often portrayed in movies or TV shows but terrifying to experience firsthand. It takes time and personal growth to recognize the true nature of this energetic presence and understand that it is based on love and support rather than something frightening.

Some individuals feel anxious because they have an overwhelming desire to unite with their twins or at least be as close to them as possible. This can trigger commitment phobias or emotional issues they are grappling with at that particular stage of their human experience.

For some, the pressure to enter into a union is so intense that it generates anxiety on its own. In their attempt to alleviate this pressure, they create distance between themselves and their twin, which ironically only intensifies their anxiety.

Feeling Overwhelmed

This type of divine soul bond is not for the faint of heart. It demands a great deal from both twins and although it also offers tremendous rewards, some twins may not feel ready to give or receive to that extent or at that particular moment in time.

The realities of this journey are exponentially more intense than any other relationship experiences we encounter in our human lives. It is easy for it to become overwhelming, particularly for the runner.

Keep in mind that runners not only grapple with the same intensity as any soul on this journey but also face added pressure due to their choice to create distance between their counterparts as a means to alleviate or resolve their overwhelming feelings. Paradoxically, feeling overwhelmed triggers behaviors that only perpetuate their sense of being overwhelmed.

Resistance

At times, runners are unwilling or unable to engage in the necessary work along this sacred path. Up to a certain point, this is understandable, as the journey is demanding and may not have been a conscious choice from the beginning. However, resistance is yet another shadow that must be confronted.

Resistance only prolongs the shadowy aspects of the journey, delaying personal growth and harmony in progress toward ascension and union. Since the soul bond can never be severed, resistance is yet another facet of the self-sabotaging shadow.

In Summary

From the perspective of a twin flame runner, this journey can often appear overwhelming or too burdensome to continue.

Many shadows emerge as part of this journey, and addressing them requires significant time, energy, and effort. Some individuals find it easier or faster to confront these shadows, while others may panic and attempt to avoid or circumvent the entire journey from the start.

The reality of this bond is that it simply exists as part of your human experience, whether you embrace it or not at different points in time. Without engaging in the work of self-development and growth, you cannot fully experience and enjoy the infinite blessings and harmony of this connection.

As daunting as it may seem, it is even more frightening to try to evade or halt this journey. Of course, you have the freedom to choose whether or not to actively pursue this path you were born into, but it is in your best interest to live in the harmony and bliss of the high frequencies that this journey offers. To truly grasp this, you must have undertaken enough inner work to perceive the truth.