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The Runner Twin Flame Perspective (I Was A Twin Flame Runner)

 


In this video, I will provide you with valuable guidance, tips, and insights regarding the runner twin flame dynamic. As a twin flame runner myself (Julia), I will share my personal experiences and break down the topic into sections. The running stage can be bewildering, so, as per your request, I will explain why I chose to distance myself from my twin flame and what was going through my mind during that time. I will also elaborate on why I eventually decided to reunite with my twin flame, Stef. Initially, I will share my journey as a twin flame runner, leading up to the moment I met my twin flame and what transpired thereafter. Subsequently, I will provide powerful advice, insights, and feedback on this stage, delving into twin flame runner behavior, their feelings of love during this phase, why they may deny their emotions and much more. Are you ready? Let's explore the things we, as runners, wish you (chasers) knew! Additionally, I will present real-life examples of situations, arguments, experiences, and lessons we encountered as a twin flame couple. Now, let's begin with my experiences before meeting my twin flame.

 

As you may already know, Stef and I have been in harmonious union for quite some time now. However, like any other twin flame couple, we experienced the running stage. I became aware of the concept of twin flames approximately six months before meeting Stef. I never expected to be the one who would run away. Spirituality is an essential aspect of my life, and I have dedicated myself to personal growth, stepping into my purpose. However, I felt that my love life needed improvement and that I still had work to do in that area. Before meeting Stef, none of my relationships lasted longer than four months. In hindsight, I realize that my lack of self-love was the underlying issue, which others could sense. Due to my low self-esteem and lack of self-love, I often chose partners who were my complete opposites—older, extremely confident, and not sensitive. 



Then, one day, after speaking with my psychic, I received an Instagram message from Stef, my twin flame whom I hadn't met yet. He didn't fit the exact description of my twin flame, but I wondered if he could be the one. As an experiment, I decided to meet up with Stef in Spain, and to my surprise, he was my mirror image. He was a vegan, non-drinker, digital nomad, and deeply spiritual. We even had the same Myers-Briggs personality type, INFJ. This was an entirely new experience for me. The intensity of meeting my twin flame was overwhelming because I had never dated someone who mirrored me before. It became challenging to navigate this experience without fully loving myself. I experienced moments of annoyance and questioned whether he was truly the right person for me. At that time, I wasn't aware of the concept of twin flames was genuine or merely a myth, as I had no one in my life who had experienced or knew about twin flames. I felt that something was amiss because Stef was so different from anyone I had previously dated. He was even younger than me, sensitive, and perceptive, which was something I wasn't accustomed to. 



This led to awkward interactions when our vibrations clashed. To maintain a relationship with your twin flame, you must possess complete self-love since they serve as your divine mirror. Unfortunately, I ran away from this intense connection. It is often said that twin flame runners deny their feelings, and to some extent, this was true in my case. I felt the need to retreat into isolation, so I returned to my home country, Sweden, and rented a small cottage in the middle of the forest. There, I reflected on our relationship, contemplated my identity, and explored my purpose. Many unresolved issues, ego problems, and insecurities came to the surface during this time. For most twin flame couples, runners tend to distract themselves from their emotions rather than introspect, turning to activities such as drinking or pursuing other partners who are easier to be with and not their mirrors. This is why the running phase can endure for a significant period. Reunion and the return to the union only occur once you have achieved complete self-love and resolved all these issues and insecurities. During my time in Sweden, I even experienced mild twin flame runner depression.


Meeting a psychic confirmed that Stef was indeed my twin flame. While in hermit mode, I decided to undergo a star seed activation session with Beti. During this session, she asked if I knew what a twin flame was, and I wasn't surprised when she confirmed that Stef was my twin flame. All the signs were present, and I couldn't deny it. I can't recall if it was my spirit guides or my star family who conveyed the message to Beti, but they suggested that Stef should accompany me to Bali, where we would undergo an "activation." Following that, we planned to have an "akashic healing" because toxic patterns had persisted across lifetimes, preventing us from reuniting. 



Although I had previously invited Stef, I initially declined and requested solitude. The guides also advised us not to engage in intimacy until after the activation and akashic healing to avoid triggering another running phase. I traveled to Bali alone and underwent the activation, which took place at a volcano. We proceeded with the akashic healing remotely. Subsequently, we decided to reunite and planned a trip to Bulgaria together. Since then, we have been in harmonious union, and the bursts of annoyance I experienced before have significantly diminished. Although we still encounter conflicts, like any other couple, such as ego issues, insecurities, and anxieties, these experiences are normal during a harmonious union. Despite that, we love each other deeply, and the journey has been entirely worthwhile, as I am now with the love of my life, and we will never part ways again.


Now, let's delve into the emotional state of the twin flame runner during periods of separation. You must understand that when your twin flame runs away, it does not signify a loss of interest or a decrease in attraction toward you. Trust me when I say that they cannot stop thinking about you. The intensity of the connection might simply become overwhelming, as you are essentially the divine mirror to your twin flame, and vice versa. Initially, when I experienced those random bursts of annoyance around Stef in Spain, I interpreted them as negative signs for a new relationship. However, I eventually realized that those emotions were triggered within me and were part of the array of twin flame runner symptoms. My insecurities were surfacing because I saw a direct reflection of myself in him. To truly love that reflection, you need to possess complete self-love.



 Various obstacles can contribute to the running phase, such as an age gap, which is common among twin flames. The divine feminine often tends to be older than the divine masculine, as was the case with Stef and me. Another obstacle we faced was our different nationalities—him from England and me from Sweden. This is also a widespread challenge among twin flames. Additionally, differing religious beliefs can pose a barrier since some individuals place great importance on sharing the same religion. For instance, one of my close friends is an Orthodox Christian, while her twin flame is a Catholic Christian, which has always been a deal breaker for her. Many people maintain a list of requirements for their partners, which can be risky because it may cause you to dismiss a potential partner who is meant for you. However, if this person is truly your twin flame, they will find their way back to you.


I have noticed a common misconception within the twin flame community, which is that it is much more challenging for the chaser than the runner and that the runner appears to be completely happy and has moved on. I want to dispel this myth.


The intensity of our connection led me to run away from Spain, where we first met, and return to Sweden. I rented a secluded cottage to be alone with my thoughts. During this time, I entered a hermit mode and experienced a night of the soul. I was filled with confusion and a deep sense of loss, even though I was the one who ran away. I found myself constantly triggered by thoughts of my twin flame, which made me question the viability of our relationship. However, deep down, I knew something was missing, and I couldn't move on. It became clear that my twin flame was always on my mind, even if they appeared to have moved on or were with someone else. The truth is that the connection between twin flames is unbreakable, and thoughts of each other are ever-present. It is impossible to stop thinking about your twin flame because you share a soul connection. 


So, rest assured that your twin flame has not completely moved on and still holds love for you. The reunion will happen when the timing is right and when both of you are aligned on the same frequency. It may feel like a slow process in this dimension, but remember that you are already spiritually connected. Instead of chasing your twin flame, focus on your inner journey of self-love, clearing ego issues, and healing insecurities. This inner work will attract your twin flame back into your life more quickly. So, have hope, be patient, and know that reuniting with your twin flame will be a transformative and beautiful experience.

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