Going through a challenging phase of separation can be extremely distressing, emotionally devastating, and utterly shattering, even though it may not appear that way to others. It is important to understand why twin flames choose to run instead of lashing out at them or blaming ourselves, as comprehending the reasons is crucial for determining the next steps.
In essence, fear lies at the core of this behavior.
The concept of a twin flame runner and running is often surrounded by misconceptions and varying beliefs. I have previously discussed the stage of twin flame separation, but since most of my readers are spiritually evolved souls (often referred to as the chasers), we tend to focus solely on their perspective.
Running, however, represents the other side of the equation.
It does not necessarily mean physically fleeing, although it frequently involves creating distance.
The runner will find a justification for ending things, which is usually unrelated to the actual reason. However, it aligns with their worldview and their perception of what a relationship should be like.
Although it might resemble a breakup, you might still be connected in some way. Nonetheless, the separation will still be deeply felt, leaving a rift between you.
Runners often seek solace in false twin flames or engage in unhealthy habits.
What prompts a twin flame to run?
As chasers, it can be difficult for us to understand why someone would make this choice. Why would they abandon such a close connection? Why don't they see what we see?
It is not a logical decision.
Fear. Fear of you. Fear of themselves. Fear of the overwhelming energy they may not comprehend.
They are not truly running away from you; rather, they are fleeing from a part of themselves. What exacerbates the situation is that they are unaware of this.
Their fear is unconscious. They will provide you (and themselves) with a different reason, genuinely believing it.
It is a fear of judgment.
It is a fear of abandonment.
It is a fear of rejection (ironically).
In the early stages of the twin flame connection, underlying issues that both individuals need to work on often surface. These fears may have been deeply buried, but the twin flame journey revolves around healing and personal growth.
Although it may cause pain in the short term, runners distance themselves to prepare for a reunion in the future.
The Twin Flame Runner is Overwhelmed
We often discuss the concept of "soul shock," but at its core, your twin soul is simply overwhelmed.
They may not possess the necessary spiritual maturity to accept or comprehend the depth of this connection.
They run because they perceive no other option. They run to protect themselves. Unbeknownst to them, they run to protect you as well.
Their overwhelming state arises from their unpreparedness to progress forward at this time.
Does the Twin Flame Runner Experience Regret?
The matter of the twin flame runner experiencing regret is intricate.
I had a conversation with my twin about this (and it appears to be a common sentiment). They regret the necessity of the separation, and the time spent apart, but they understand that it had to occur.
During particularly challenging phases of separation, they may regret some of their words or actions. They might regret falling back into old patterns, routines, or false connections.
This stage of the journey inflicts profound pain upon both of you. The twin flame runner's emotions are no less complex than our own, and they undergo turmoil during this phase.
However, ultimately, they cannot regret an integral part of the process that brings both of you together.
Should You Ignore the Twin Flame Runner?
The answer is both yes and no.
This topic often sparks debates within the twin flame runner community. Some argue that you should try to ignore the runner as much as possible.
In my perspective, if you are unable to focus on your journey, then yes, you should minimize contact with your runner.
However, I believe that solely adopting this approach prolongs the separation phase unnecessarily. As long as you can continue to concentrate on your path, maintaining communication with the runner in the physical and/or higher dimensions can help guide them back to you sooner.
How Can I Prevent My Twin Flame from Running?
As twin flame chasers, this is the crucial question we want to be answered. How can we make them understand what is truly happening?
The separation phase is not solely a matter of time. If we passively wait for them, we may be waiting indefinitely or it might never happen at all.
The solution always lies in redirecting your focus inward and ceasing to obsess over them.
I understand that I have mentioned this before, and I will likely reiterate it. It is the most significant mistake I observe that hinders the journey to the union, although I acknowledge it is easier said than done.
I developed twin flame coaching precisely for this process, which involves a combination of reaching out to guide your twin flame on their journey while focusing on yourself.
Do not fall into the trap of believing that your sole responsibility is to assist them. The runner/chaser roles often interchange more frequently than you realize, and you do not want to undergo this phase only to find it prolonged once again.
Maintain open lines of communication. Initiate contact with your twin flame and let them know you are available to talk.
Utilize tools such as meditation and Tarot to guide yourself and the runner forward. Channel messages of support and guidance to them.
Also, concentrate on your personal goals in the physical dimension. Whether they pertain to your profession, education, physical well-being, or simply fulfilling items on your bucket list, do not neglect your growth solely because you are not yet in the union.
Remember, twin flames run because they are not ready. The pain of separation often tempts one to wallow, but you must find a balance between guiding them forward and nurturing your development.
When Should You Stop Chasing Your Twin Flame?
The short answer? When you are ready.
It is not a matter of specific periods. It is not a waiting game. You cease chasing your twin flame when both of you are prepared to move forward.
Either you both feel ready to progress toward the next stage of union, or the roles will reverse and if you are not yet ready yourself, you will become the runner.
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