Twin flames and karmic attachments serve as reflections of our souls, allowing us to identify emotional and energetic barriers that may exist within us. These connections also highlight patterns that have been ingrained in us by our families, cultures, and societies. While twin flames offer the most intense reflection, exposing our destructive tendencies and areas that require healing, karmic attachments also guide us toward a path of completeness by reflecting the worst kind of relationship we can imagine.
If you are trapped in a karmic attachment, you are likely to experience a persistent feeling of discomfort that you cannot seem to shake off. This often manifests itself as anxiety, depression, a sense of worthlessness, and the constant need to prove your worth to your partner. When I found myself in a karmic attachment, my mental state deteriorated further, and I spent my days crying over my partner's lack of affection and attention. Despite his repeated disinterest in a committed relationship, I would vacillate between bombarding him with messages and trying to express my love for him in the hope of receiving even a mediocre response - which rarely ever happened.
The crucial point I wish to emphasize is that none of this deterred me. No amount of tears shed over feeling unvalued or his unwavering statements of not wanting a relationship or any commitment stopped me from pursuing him relentlessly, showering him with love, and giving myself over to him completely.
It did not matter to me that he did not reciprocate my feelings. All I needed was a semblance of affection from him. I was willing to overlook his disinterest in a relationship as long as he occasionally showed some kind of interest, even if it was purely physical. Even though he would take hours to respond to my messages (although I was convinced that he had seen them earlier), I did not care, as long as he eventually replied.
I would sit there, phone in hand, eagerly waiting for him to acknowledge my existence, as that was enough to make me feel validated and important.
This was perhaps the most agonizing type of mistreatment that I had ever experienced, and what made it even worse was that it was entirely self-inflicted. I did not have to continue chasing after him, nor did I have to allow myself to be treated this way. At any given time, I could have severed ties with him, told him that I wanted nothing to do with him and that I deserved to be treated better. However, the crucial aspect here is that I chose not to.
Deep within me, buried somewhere, although perhaps not as deep as I had thought, was the belief that I deserved to be treated in this manner, with minimal displays of love and consistent neglect. Now I realize that it was because I was not entirely being true to myself. How could I expect someone else to be fully open and available to me when I was not being that way with myself? I was avoiding myself, desperately seeking to fix myself, and I tried to avoid this responsibility by assigning it to someone who was not the right person for the job, despite his good intentions.
Why did I endure so much pain when the solution was as simple as leaving and finding someone who treated me better? The answer is that I had a deep dislike for myself. The way I allowed myself to be treated is a reflection of my self-treatment and past childhood experiences. I didn't see the need to change because the familiarity of the feeling was comforting. The man I was involved with was emotionally distant and unable to express intimacy or commitment, but I, a hopeless romantic with a big heart, clung to him and refused to let go. My behavior was borderline obsessive, and I mistook it for love. The fleeting moments of affection he showed me were enough to outweigh the constant lows. I held onto patterns and beliefs inherited from previous generations, such as low self-esteem and an attraction to pain.
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In a previous discussion about mirrors, I mentioned that karmic attachments can reveal parts of ourselves that crave validation. In my case, I didn't love or value myself and wasn't committed to myself, so I attracted someone who had those same issues. This is the purpose of karmic attachments - they can be seen as a type of curse that can trap us and repeat the same patterns until we break free. It's important to note that these unions are not inherently evil, as viewing them that way can hinder healing and growth. The attachment I experienced lasted over 3 years, but I know others who have been stuck for much longer, as they can be incredibly addictive and difficult to move on from.
If only we took the time to introspect and understand ourselves, we would see that the world is a reflection of who we are, and we could learn to use our negative experiences for healing others.
In the field of psychology, co-dependency, and anxious attachment style are common reasons why empaths, healers, and light workers tend to attract karmic attachments and even twin flame unions throughout their lives.
These terms refer to individuals who are so focused on obtaining love and feeling needed that they consistently neglect their own needs. The behaviors associated with these terms include being clingy, needy, obsessive, and draining. Although these individuals may not intend to exhibit such behavior, they are often so wounded that they are constantly seeking signs that their partner will leave them and may resort to extreme and manipulative tactics to prevent this from happening.
This behavior may not appear to align with that of a healer, but it's important to remember the journey of a healer. Before stepping into their role as a healer, they are typically exposed to various emotional, energetic, and generational downloads that they must transmute and release. This is not an easy task, particularly for healers who are unaware of their abilities and are simply trying to live a normal life.
Until the empath realizes that the self-abuse in these relationships is dysfunctional and that the only way out is to focus on oneself, such unions will persist.
Misconceptions about twin flame relationships abound on the internet, leading many to believe that they are ideal, harmonious relationships. However, this is far from reality. Those who have been in a twin flame union or are part of one know how challenging, bewildering, and agonizing it can be.
In a twin flame Union, every aspect of your emotional, mental, and spiritual baggage will surface, making it the ultimate mirror relationship where both partners must face their issues. Despite what some may think, it is not uncommon for twin flame unions to involve abuse and ill-treatment. This is because both partners are dealing with a lifetime of baggage, which can lead to selfishness, confusion, and depression. However, it is important to remember that accepting such behavior under the guise of "divine love" is not necessary. True divine love feels divine and does not involve neglect. The purpose of a twin flame Union is to heal and bring you back to yourself, breaking the cycle of co-dependency and self-defeat. Your twin flame is a lesson, not an opportunity to repeat the same mistakes. Remember the concept of the curse that was mentioned earlier?
Focus on self-improvement and break the cycle of unhealthy relationships. It's essential to allow your twin flame or karmic partner to work on themselves too while holding unconditional love for them in your heart. It's okay to seek self-love and respect. Many healers and intuitive may avoid suggesting this, but it's important to take risks, date soulmates during the separation phase, and explore love. However, it's equally important not to forget the healing process.
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