TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

Of all the questions I’ve received over the years, one comes up surprisingly often: What happens when the chaser decides to move on? Does the runner even notice? Does this shift influence the connection?

As with most aspects of the twin flame journey, there isn’t a single, clear answer. Each journey is unique, and outcomes can vary greatly, with the most common possibilities being one of the following:

In the most difficult scenario: Neither the runner nor the chaser takes any further steps toward each other. This outcome suggests that union won’t happen in this lifetime, meaning both souls will have to wait for another life to reunite. It can feel disheartening, but even this separation serves a purpose, offering both individuals time for growth, healing, and development, which can better prepare them for a future reunion.

Temporary detachment: The chaser may temporarily pull back, often for self-preservation or to focus on other aspects of life. In time, however, the chasers might find themselves returning to the connection, especially if they feel a lingering sense of unfinished business or unresolved emotions with the runner. This can be an ongoing cycle of chase and release, with both twin flames gradually developing through each cycle until they reach a state of balance.

Role reversal: In some cases, the runner becomes aware of the chaser’s distance and transforms, realizing that the connection is something they’re now willing to pursue. This role reversal can be a pivotal moment, as it often signifies that the runner has had enough time and space to confront their feelings and fears. By stepping into the role of chaser, they may initiate the next phase of reunion or healing.

When the Runner Moves On A Shift in the Twin Flame Dynamic

When the chaser moves on, it can be a major turning point for both twins. Sometimes, the runner perceives this shift, whether directly or energetically, and experiences emotions they may not fully understand—such as regret, loss, or a sense of longing. This distancing can compel both to focus on their own lives, perhaps seeking personal growth, exploring new relationships, or prioritizing healing.

Often, the runner’s reasons for moving on are complex. Overwhelming doubt, frustration with the intensity of the connection, or the sheer fear of losing personal freedom can drive them to disconnect. The twin flame bond can feel incredibly intense and confining for someone who isn’t yet ready, leading them to search for a sense of normalcy elsewhere. In some cases, developing a new relationship becomes a way to escape the unique challenges of the twin flame journey, offering a period of calm that the runner may crave.

How This Affects the Chaser

When the runner moves on, the chaser frequently feels a deep sense of abandonment and loneliness, as if they’ve lost an essential part of themselves. This separation can leave the chaser questioning the connection’s significance or even doubting the entire journey. While these feelings are incredibly painful, they can also drive the chaser toward self-discovery and growth. In many cases, this separation initiates a transformative period where the chaser explores their identity outside the twin flame dynamic, leading to greater self-awareness, emotional resilience, and inner strength.

Yet, despite the pain, this separation doesn’t always signify the end. For many, it’s a necessary phase that ultimately contributes to their personal evolution and spiritual journey, helping them release codependent behaviors, fears, and insecurities that may have been blocking their growth.

Common Misconceptions About the Runner and Chaser Roles

Many people assume that twin flame roles are fixed, with one person always chasing and the other always running. However, it’s not uncommon for these roles to reverse. If the chaser decides the journey has become too painful, they may begin focusing on other relationships, experiences, or self-development. This can lead to a surprising role reversal, where the chaser becomes more focused on their personal goals, and the runner feels a pull to reconnect, perhaps even stepping into the chaser role. This cycle often highlights that twin flames are meant to balance each other, and these shifts can play a crucial role in that process.

It’s a common question I hear: Can the twin flame chaser truly give up? And what does that mean for the connection?

Yes, this happens—and more often than you’d think. The separation phase is long, demanding, and emotionally bruising. Many experience cycles of deep doubt, frustration, and growth. And when we consider the possibility of false twin flames—relationships that feel almost identical but aren’t true twin flame connections—the journey becomes even more challenging. In cases of a false twin flame, these separation and reconnection phases can be endless, leaving both individuals emotionally drained.

Although I’ve discussed the potential for twin flame “failure” before, the truth is that a true twin flame journey cannot truly fail. However, this doesn’t guarantee a union in this lifetime. The twin flame journey requires active personal growth and self-discovery, and sitting back and waiting for the universe to intervene won’t suffice. Each twin has their spiritual work to do, and the timing of a union depends on both of them reaching a level of readiness.

The Complexity of Moving On

I completely understand why you may feel the urge to move on. Having experienced my twin flame separation and spoken with hundreds of people who’ve gone through the same, I empathize with your need for clarity and closure.

Moving on isn’t a reflection on you or your twin. It doesn’t mean that your connection isn’t genuine or that you won’t achieve union in this lifetime. Questioning the connection is a natural and healthy part of this emotionally and spiritually intense journey. Without these questions, we might risk misinterpreting every strong connection as a twin flame and repeatedly experiencing heartbreak over false connections or infatuations.

This phase, although painful, is essential for your growth. It pushes you to explore the depths of your soul, to let go of attachments and expectations, and to learn the art of loving without needing to possess. Whether or not you and your twin flame come together in this lifetime, the journey will continue to shape and enrich your soul. In many ways, this personal evolution is the ultimate purpose of the Twin Flame journey.

Does My Twin Flame Runner Miss Me?

This is one question about twin flames I can answer with absolute certainty, no matter who you are: yes, they do.

I’ve discussed twin flame telepathy before, that ever-present link between mirror souls, which exists even before they physically meet. Whether or not the runner is consciously aware of it, they do miss you. There are subtle signs when they’re thinking about you, and often it’s when you begin to move on that they feel the shift and may start chasing you instead.

Sometimes this change happens quickly; sometimes, it takes much longer. In some cases, it may not even happen in this lifetime. But, just as you may still miss them even after moving on, they feel that same longing on some level.

Understanding the Twin Flame Runner Stage

You might wonder, If my runner will eventually miss me and might even start chasing once I let go, why can’t they just awaken now and spare us both the pain?

Unfortunately, it’s not that simple. The reason can be summed up in one term: soul shock.

The runner isn’t intentionally causing pain to either of you. They may not even fully understand what’s happening because they haven’t reached a level of spiritual awareness to handle the intensity of this bond. For the chaser, this can be extremely difficult to accept (trust me, I’ve been there).

It’s also worth considering, although just a possibility, that you may not be true twin flames. While this stage is painful, it might ultimately be better for both of you.

I wish I had an easier answer. Twin flame journeys are many things, but simple is not one of them. The twin flame runner may miss you even if they don’t fully realize it, and the depth of their awareness depends on their level of spiritual awakening.

Just because they don’t appear to miss you now doesn’t mean they don’t, or that they won’t in the future.

Your Path Forward

Reflect on your journey and the unique stages and challenges within it. Every twin flame journey is unique, with no universal rules or set timelines. Patience, self-reflection, and spiritual growth are essential as you navigate this complex and often painful path.

Would you like to discuss your twin flame journey? I’d be happy to help you explore what may be happening, what they’re thinking, and how you might move forward in the physical world (the 3D).