TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

Many divine feminines on the twin flame journey, myself included, have wondered, "What makes the divine masculine so divine? Why do I still feel such deep love for him, even when he often behaves poorly?"

As a feminine twin flame, you may experience some troubling behavior from your divine masculine, including ghosting, blocking, hot and cold behavior, cheating, lying, deception, rejection, abandonment, and more. This kind of treatment can leave many feminine twin flames bewildered, confused, or in deep emotional pain, trying to make sense of what went wrong.

The typical response for the feminine twin flame in these situations is self-questioning, wondering what she could have done to deserve this behavior from her divine counterpart. She may replay interactions, analyze conversations, and scrutinize her actions, looking for faults or mistakes. When she finds no answers, her frustration often turns towards him, sometimes leading to intense anger for his poor treatment. This anger can manifest as resentment, bitterness, or even rage, making it difficult to remember the initial connection and love they once shared.

The reality is that while there's usually a lot of passion and romance in the early stages of a twin flame relationship, the majority of the journey is not about romance at all—something the divine feminine often struggles to accept. The twin flame path is primarily about spiritual growth, healing, and self-discovery. It involves facing one's deepest fears, insecurities, and unresolved traumas, which can be a painful and challenging process.

For most twin flames, the journey begins with the "bubble love phase" after their initial meeting, where both twins feel an intense attraction and a sense of being at home' with each other. This phase typically lasts from one to six months and is often abruptly disrupted by the masculine twin, who, overwhelmed by the intensity of the connection, begins to pull away. The intensity of the twin flame connection can trigger deep-seated fears and unresolved issues within the masculine, causing him to retreat and create distance.

The feminine twin, sensing his withdrawal, experiences abandonment and rejection wounds, leading her to become aggressive, chase after him, and demand answers. This reaction is driven by her fear of losing him and the intense emotional pain his withdrawal causes. Her attempts to reconnect and seek reassurance often push him further away, creating a cycle of chasing and running. This often causes the masculine to run, resulting in him blocking her on some or all forms of contact. The feminine's attempts to reach out, whether through messages, calls, or social media, are met with silence, amplifying her feelings of rejection and abandonment.

During this tumultuous period, the feminine twin flame is often forced to confront her wounds and embark on a journey of self-healing and empowerment. She learns to cultivate self-love, set boundaries, and find strength within herself. Meanwhile, the masculine twin also goes through his process of growth and healing, although it may be less visible and more internal.

Ultimately, the twin flame journey is about achieving balance and harmony within oneself and the connection. It requires both twins to heal, grow, and evolve individually before they can come together in a harmonious union. This path is not easy, but it can lead to profound spiritual awakening and transformation for both the divine feminine and the divine masculine.

This is often when the feminine twin enters her ‘night of the soul,’ as the energies between twin flames are profoundly deep and powerful. The masculine twin becomes the catalyst that initiates the feminine’s awakening.

It’s important to note that the feminine twin always begins to awaken first. She is more connected to her intuition and spirit, making her better equipped to navigate through the darkness and the unknown, even if she may not be consciously aware of it.

One of the biggest challenges for the feminine twin to overcome is her attachment to commitment and romance with her masculine as the ultimate goal of the journey. It’s a paradox: the more she chases after it, demands it, or tries to force it through various manipulative tactics, the more it slips from her grasp, and he retreats further away from her.

This attachment is part of why the masculine engages in challenging behaviors such as ghosting, blocking, and being hot and cold. He can sense her attachment, which energetically repels him, resulting in the iconic ‘push/pull’ dynamic of the twin flame journey.

I’m not blaming the feminine for the masculine’s poor behavior. How a person behaves towards another reflects their emotional and psychological maturity level. Some masculine twins do not resort to blocking, ignoring, or ghosting and instead assert healthy boundaries respectfully.

However, many masculine twin flames do engage in these challenging behaviors. His wounded pride and ego often manifest as these shadow behaviors. One of the biggest challenges the masculine twin must overcome is avoiding his emotions, including the intense love he feels for his feminine. Many masculine twins downplay or outright deny their feelings and numb the pain with alcohol, food, sex, and other vices. This avoidance wreaks havoc on the connection and their lives in general.

Masculine twins often take the feminine twin for granted while denying the connection's existence. In his unawakened state, he doesn’t believe she will ever walk away, so he doesn’t show much respect towards her in the physical world, triggering her abandonment and rejection wounds.

Usually, it’s not until the feminine twin walks away—often after reaching her limit with the masculine’s behavior—that he experiences his own ‘night of the soul.’ He is then forced to deal with the pain her departure brings, ultimately reflecting on his behavior and life choices and realizing what he has lost.

It may be tough for the feminine to walk away due to her deep love for her masculine, but it is an essential part of the journey so that both twins can learn to stand independently.

Unconditional love for your twin does not mean always feeling love and saying yes. It means loving someone enough not to tolerate their bad behavior. It’s about seeing them for who they are—the good, the bad, and the ugly—and inspiring them to live up to the highest expression of themselves.

From a human perspective, all this challenging behavior can be extremely frustrating and painful. Many feminine twin flames have begged for the connection to be severed, desperate to escape the twin flame merry-go-round of horrors. I’ve certainly been there! It can feel like a cosmic joke.

Despite the immense difficulty and pain the masculine brings to the connection, this very behavior kickstarts the feminine’s ascension process, forcing her to become the person she is meant to be. She is broken down to rise and reborn like a phoenix from the ashes, loving and peaceful, with a drive to serve humankind.