TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

"I’ve been immersed in Borges' writings lately and have been struck by the recurring themes that resonate with the concept of twin flames. Borges often employs mirrors and labyrinths in his poetry—two potent symbols that I find deeply connected to the twin flame journey. These symbols, particularly in the context of twin flames, reveal why one partner, despite being deeply in love, might feel compelled to flee, becoming the 'runner' in the relationship.

In Borges' 'The Garden of Forking Paths,' the line 'I left my house and passed through a garden of forking paths' serves as a metaphor for the complex and often bewildering journey of self-discovery. It illustrates the multitude of choices we encounter in life, each leading to a different reality. When applied to twin flame relationships, this garden represents that initial, fateful meeting and the subsequent path both partners embark on. Every decision made along this path can alter the course of the relationship, presenting twin flames with a series of diverging experiences and lessons that they must navigate together. This journey through the ‘forking paths’ symbolizes the profound uncertainty and myriad opportunities that define the twin flame connection, where each choice could lead to growth or separation, enlightenment or confusion.

Borges also writes, 'In all of the futures, there is only one that is real.' This line resonates deeply within the context of twin flames, emphasizing the belief that despite the numerous challenges, obstacles, and potential paths, there is one destined future that is meant to unfold between the two souls. This belief can be both empowering and terrifying. It offers immense hope and faith in the idea that no matter how difficult the journey, there is a singular, profound connection that is meant to be. However, it also brings with it the immense pressure of ensuring that this 'one true future' is not lost or overlooked amidst the confusion of choices. The fear of missing out on this destined path can become overwhelming, adding to the emotional intensity that often characterizes twin flame relationships.

In Borges' poem 'The Mirrors,' the verse 'Now I fear the mirror may disclose the true, unvarnished visage of my soul, bruised by shadows, black and blue with guilt—the face God sees, that men perhaps see too,' encapsulates the deep, often unsettling introspection that comes with being in a twin flame relationship. Mirrors, in Borges' work, often symbolize self-reflection and the revealing of one's deepest truths. In the context of twin flames, this mirror represents the other person—your twin—who reflects back to you the unfiltered reality of your own soul. This reflection can be both illuminating and painful, as it forces one to confront their own flaws, insecurities, and unresolved traumas. The fear of seeing this 'true, unvarnished visage'—the raw, unhidden aspects of oneself that even God and others might see—can be overwhelming. This intense self-examination can be a driving force behind why one partner might choose to become the 'runner,' seeking to escape the vulnerability and emotional exposure that the relationship demands."

Now I fear the mirror may reveal the unfiltered essence of my soul."

For those who become runners in a twin flame relationship, this fear is often rooted in the worry that the relationship will strip away all defenses, revealing their most raw, unguarded selves. Twin flame connections are known for their intense emotional depth and the profound level of vulnerability they demand. This level of exposure can be overwhelming, as it forces individuals to confront aspects of themselves that they may have kept hidden, even from themselves. The fear that their true nature—complete with all its imperfections and unhealed wounds—will be laid bare before their partner can be terrifying, prompting some to flee rather than face this level of intimacy.

"Bruised by shadows, black and blue with guilt."

This line captures the profound inner turmoil that often accompanies the decision to run. Runners may carry deep emotional scars from past experiences—traumas, unresolved guilt, or a pervasive sense of self-blame—that leave them feeling fundamentally flawed or unworthy of the intense love a twin flame relationship offers. The shadows of their past weigh heavily on them, creating a sense of being 'bruised' both emotionally and spiritually. They might fear that the overwhelming love they feel will only serve to highlight these flaws and weaknesses, making them vulnerable to rejection or judgment. This fear can become a powerful force, driving them to escape before their partner sees the full extent of their inner pain.

"The face God sees, that men perhaps see too."

This line speaks to a deep-seated fear of judgment, not only from a divine or spiritual perspective but also from a social and personal one. In the context of a twin flame relationship, runners might fear that their partner will see them as they truly are, without the masks they’ve worn to protect themselves. This fear extends beyond just their partner’s perception; it includes the fear of how they will be seen by others if their true self is exposed. The idea that they could be judged, found lacking, or even condemned for their perceived imperfections can be terrifying. This fear of being seen—truly seen, in all their vulnerability—can drive them to retreat, seeking a space where they can maintain some level of control over how they are perceived.

Twin flames are mirrors to each other; in the presence of their true counterpart, all facades and defenses must fall away, leaving no room for pretense or deception. This mirroring effect forces both partners to confront their most authentic, sometimes scarred inner selves. The intensity of this reflection can be overwhelming, as it brings to light aspects of themselves that they may have long avoided or denied. The fear of this deep self-exposure—of having to face their innermost truths and wounds—can drive some to run, seeking the safety of an environment where they are not required to confront these painful realities.

I consider myself fortunate in my own twin flame journey. Despite facing many difficult and painful moments together, neither of us has chosen to run away. We have embraced the challenge of confronting our inner selves and each other's darkest aspects, trusting that this process, though difficult, is essential for our growth. Through this mutual willingness to face our fears and vulnerabilities, we have both experienced significant personal and relational growth, becoming stronger and more resilient together.