For many, despite the intense emotions and strong desire to connect with a twin flame, the opposite often occurs, leading to greater distance instead of unity. The journey with a twin flame is paradoxical and filled with unexpected twists and turns.
When we are open-hearted and highly sensitive, we immediately recognize our twin flame, feeling a profound sense of familiarity and comfort as if we have come home. This connection is marked by an undeniable energy that many describe as feeling like "home." However, the ultimate twist is that the other person often doesn't recognize us in the same way, or if they do, they may be stuck in denial. This can lead to the frustrating experience of feeling like the closer we move toward our twin flame, the farther they move away.
Understanding this uncomfortable truth is crucial. It allows us to awaken and begin the healing process from the deep, aching desire to unite with the person our heart longs for. The reality is that twin flames are not identical to us; they are our opposites. This fundamental difference creates immense fear, as we are naturally terrified of what we don't fully understand, leading us to subconsciously reject it.
In the dynamic of twin flames, where one person may be open and welcoming, the other might be closed off and resistant to the energetic bond. Our entire universe operates on the principle of yin and yang, with opposing energies existing to achieve harmony and balance. This dynamic often pulls us toward our opposite, to create equilibrium.
The challenge lies in the role our egos play. Conditioned by society and past experiences, we often behave in ways that are limiting, demanding, judgmental, controlling, or fearful. This resistance is a defense mechanism, designed to protect us from the emotional turmoil that the twin flame relationship can evoke. Even though the person who is closed off feels an undeniable attraction, this attraction can feel chaotic and full of friction, bringing up a wide array of emotions they are not yet ready to manage or process.
True connection with a twin flame requires breaking down the internal barriers we have built over time. These barriers were created to guard our hearts and protect us from pain, but they also prevent us from fully embracing the twin flame connection.
Contrary to what we might believe, when we first connect with our twin flame, we are usually unprepared for the emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects of this encounter. This unpreparedness stems from the fact that our twin flame serves as a mirror, reflecting us all the things we dislike, don't understand, or have denied, rejected, suppressed, and refused to accept in our own lives.
Even though we may consciously ignore the parts we dislike in our twin flame, our subconscious mind remains acutely aware. It works tirelessly to protect our hearts by triggering behaviors that create separation, thus keeping our twin flame at a distance.
Ultimately, denying the other person is a form of self-denial. Despite our efforts to hide aspects of our personality out of fear that they are hideous and unacceptable, these aspects still exist within us. We are often left in dismay when our twin flame does not match our expectations of being identical to us. We hope our twin flame will reflect our inner strength, courage, confidence, security, and centeredness. Only when we see these qualities mirrored back do we feel validated, worthy, and acceptable. However, the true lesson of the twin flame journey is to embrace and integrate these mirrored aspects within ourselves, leading to profound personal growth and self-acceptance.
Our primal instincts, from an evolutionary perspective, compel us to admire and gravitate toward certain traits while disregarding others, ensuring the best chance of survival for ourselves and our offspring. While this was advantageous in prehistoric times when daily survival was a struggle, the traits we desire and need today are very different from those of thousands of years ago.
This evolutionary mismatch explains why we struggle to coexist harmoniously with a twin flame. On one level, we desire certain qualities, but on another, our DNA drives us toward traits it deems necessary for survival. These conflicting expectations often lead to failure in matters of the heart and soul.
Our needs and wants boil down to the same thing: security. This isn't just domestic security, but also security within ourselves.
The open-hearted individual is desperate to connect emotionally, showering their twin flame with affection and admiration. In contrast, the closed-hearted partner accepts this affection, but it only serves their ego, not their heart. Consequently, the more these two interact, the further apart they seem to grow.
The ego stands between them, redirecting these emotional messages to wherever it believes they are best suited for "survival." Thus, even though these two souls are drawn to explore their connection, subconscious forces pull them apart.
The more attention and admiration the closed-hearted person receives, the more they feel superior to the open-hearted one. The ego convinces them to dismiss the connection, failing to see that the yin and yang—opposing yet balancing qualities—are exactly what is needed for complementary soul resonance.
The tricky part comes when illusions fade, and the ego steps back, revealing the truth: a twin flame is merely mirroring the tendencies we perceive as weak and undesirable.
If we hold disdain for emotionally unavailable people, our twin flame will likely be emotionally unavailable. If we despise those trapped in their ego, our twin flame will exhibit those traits. If we detest arrogance and self-absorption, our twin flame will display these qualities.
We may not consciously acknowledge these traits in our twin flame, becoming captivated by an idealized image. However, when that illusion is shattered and reality sets in, we see that our twin flame is not as "perfect" as we once believed.
Spiritually, we are challenged to keep our hearts open, even when tempted to close off, understanding that the person we placed on a pedestal is simply a human—like us—with a myriad of perceived and real flaws and faults.
Instead of suppressing our darkness and striving to remain solely in the light, it is crucial to embrace, integrate, and balance all aspects of ourselves to achieve inner peace and connect with our twin flame.
We often feel compelled to express only our light sides due to fear of rejection if others see our broken fragments beneath the surface. However, this fear also leads us to reject ourselves and those around us whose dark sides we witness.
The key to a twin flame soul connection is accepting each other completely and continuing to love despite all the imperfections they present. When we can love both others and ourselves without conditions, expectations, or attachments, we reach a higher form of love. The hardest part is maintaining it.
There is a difference between a soulmate and a twin flame. A soulmate shares similarities with us, provides learning experiences, and communicates well. They are kindred spirits with whom we can coexist harmoniously, without being pushed too far out of our comfort zone. These relationships feel natural, comforting, and generally flow effortlessly.
A twin flame, on the other hand, appears as our opposite, and we continuously learn from the connection, whether in close contact or not. We usually struggle to coexist with a twin flame as they challenge us beyond our comfort zone, triggering our deepest insecurities, beliefs, values, motivations, intentions, and feelings.
We learn from a soulmate for our own higher good, but from a twin flame for the higher good of the entire planet and collective evolution.
Ultimately, the twin flame connection teaches us about unconditional love and acceptance by revealing what we find most difficult to love and accept in others and ourselves. It is easy to love the qualities that reside in the light; the greatest challenge is to also love and accept those in the darkness.
Both halves of the twin flame dynamic struggle equally to accept the opposing traits of the other. Despite feeling a bond and being magnetized toward one another, a strong undercurrent repels and forces them apart.
When we finally release our past pain, conditioned beliefs, and trauma-causing obstacles, we can begin to truly love and accept ourselves and each other exactly as we are. The undercurrent pulling us away will weaken, and we will stop subconsciously resisting the powerful and unique flow of unconditional, limitless love.
Until then, a twin flame connection may feel complicated, and frustrating, and will likely elude us.
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