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Sacred Sexuality: What Is Tantra & How It Can Enhance Your Relationships

 


Tantra is an ancient spiritual practice that originated in Ancient India around 5,000 years ago. It is based on teachings from ancient Buddhist, Taoist, and Hindu scriptures. The primary goal of tantra is to achieve balance within all aspects of the self—physical, emotional, mental, etheric, and spiritual—and the world around you, ultimately leading to the discovery of your higher purpose.


In the Western world, many people associate tantra primarily with sex, passion, and intimate pleasure. While sexual practices are a part of tantra and involve balancing the divine masculine and feminine energies through sexual pleasure and orgasm, tantra is much more comprehensive. It incorporates all senses, including sight, smell, hearing, taste, and intuition, to build a holistic connection with one's partner. This approach helps create a deep emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical bond, fostering intimacy and a profound sense of connection.


To create the ideal ambiance for a tantric practice, you can play soft, sensual music that encourages relaxation and a deeper connection. Diffusing aphrodisiac essential oils like jasmine rose, or sandalwood can enhance the atmosphere with their evocative scents. Decorating the room with red and pink flowers, colors associated with love and passion, can further set the mood. Placing several LED candles around the space provides a soft, romantic glow, without the fire risk of traditional candles. LED candles are a safer alternative, allowing you to focus entirely on the experience without safety concerns.


Once the mood is set, you and your partner can prepare for an exhilarating journey of sexual pleasure and spiritual connection. Tantric sex can be an incredibly powerful experience, potentially activating kundalini energy within the five bodies: physical, emotional, mental, etheric, and aura. Kundalini energy, often depicted as a coiled serpent at the base of the spine, can rise through the chakras, promoting profound spiritual awakening and heightened states of consciousness.


For women, tantra can be transformative, helping them to cherish and embrace their divine feminine or inner goddess. It can heal deep-seated fears, guilt, or shame associated with pleasure, desire, or sexuality. This healing can lead to a more positive body image, making women feel more attractive and comfortable in their skin. As they become more sensuous, they may find themselves more irresistible to both the opposite and the same sex. The divine feminine in tantra also encompasses intuition, psychic abilities, nurturing, empathy, gentleness, kindness, generosity, and compassion.


For men, tantra encourages emotional vulnerability, allowing them to build a deeper emotional connection with their partner. It helps them to move beyond viewing sex and lovemaking as merely physical acts, fostering a holistic understanding of intimacy that includes emotional and spiritual dimensions. Through tantra, men can learn to express their emotions more freely, enhancing the emotional bond with their partner and creating a more fulfilling relationship.


Tantra is not just about sexual practices; it is a path to spiritual growth and self-discovery. By balancing the divine masculine and feminine energies within ourselves, we can achieve a harmonious state of being that transcends the physical realm. This balance can lead to greater self-awareness, deeper connections with others, and a more profound understanding of our place in the universe. Through tantra, we can unlock our true potential and live a life filled with purpose, joy, and divine connection.


Balancing the divine masculine within you, which I like to call the "inner warrior," is crucial for facing obstacles with strength, compassion, and courage. This balance is essential not just for men, but for women as well. Although tantra is about connecting with a partner, it starts with a deep connection to oneself. Without self-intimacy and understanding, it becomes challenging for you and your partner to satisfy each other. Knowing your desires and needs is key for your partner to connect with you meaningfully. Therefore, before engaging in tantric practices with another person, it's vital to heal from any sexual trauma, fear, guilt, or shame, and to balance your yin and yang energies. This healing journey can be extensive and may sometimes require professional help, especially in severe cases like sexual abuse.


For those who are currently single, there are many tantra-based activities to explore. Yoga can help in aligning the body and mind, while a relaxing bath by candlelight can soothe the senses. Getting a massage can release physical tension, and learning to dance can connect you with your body's rhythm. Meditating helps in achieving mental clarity, spending time in nature grounds you, and buying sexy lingerie can enhance your confidence and sex appeal. Contrary to popular belief, tantra is not exclusively for couples; you can achieve pleasure and satisfaction on your own. The fundamental principle of tantra is to live a life that feels full rather than half-empty. By becoming whole within yourself and aligning with your soul, you naturally attract your polar opposite or twin flame, your ultimate lover.


Many twin flame couples are naturally drawn to tantra due to its deep spiritual practice and wisdom. Tantra and twin flame relationships are perfectly synergistic, as both philosophies focus on balancing male and female energies within us, ultimately leading to unity with the source or higher power. This is the ultimate goal for twin flame couples. However, both partners must heal from their fears and emotional wounds to achieve this union in physical reality. If you are on the twin flame journey, healing your inner child is essential for reuniting with your soul's other half. Pursuing your twin flame without this inner healing will only push them further away.


Always remember that tantra is about balance, not just sex. It involves harmonizing all aspects of the self, including the emotional, mental, and spiritual, in addition to the physical. In my opinion, tantra is the holy grail for healing the sacral chakra, especially if it is blocked, repressed, or vibrating at a low frequency. This chakra, located in the lower abdomen, governs creativity, sexuality, and emotional balance. Healing it can lead to a more vibrant and fulfilling life.


In a few weeks, I will delve deeper into the principles of tantra by exploring the divine feminine and masculine energies and how to embrace them with confidence. Understanding and balancing these energies within ourselves can lead to profound personal growth and deeper connections with others. Whether you are single or in a relationship, embracing tantra can transform your life, making it richer, more balanced, and more connected to the higher aspects of your being.

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