I wanted to write this post to share some everyday experiences of being in Harmonious Union with my Twin Flame. Achieving Harmonious Union has been a blessing for my soul, made possible through the full suite of support available in the Teaching of Union, from watching TFAS to healing on my own with the Mirror Exercise.
Before I delve into my experiences, I want to clarify that being in the Harmonious Twin Flame Union doesn’t mean you won’t experience any upsets with your Twin Flame. The key difference in my life is feeling truly one with my Twin Flame, regardless of how upset I am with him or how many seemingly foolish things he does. No matter how uncomfortable or hurt I feel by his actions, I know we are one. Even when I am incredibly upset, and angry, and my thoughts don't make logical sense, I know we are one. I don’t see myself as separate from Laurentiu in any way. The degree to which I feel this unity is very visceral and real. To illustrate, imagine I am cutting vegetables and accidentally cut one of my fingers on my left hand. There is only one being here, so yes, I hurt myself in the process. This is how being in the Harmonious Twin Flame Union feels. Choosing separation from your Twin Flame, in this example, would be like the left hand seeing itself as separate from the body and ripping itself away out of anger over the cut, or commanding the right hand to be chopped off as punishment.
This understanding is crucial for many things I will describe below.
Typically, our days and interactions are peaceful, which we've cultivated through extensive healing with the Mirror Exercise and the study of the Teachings of Union. However, upsets still arise. A recent upset I experienced with Laurentiu was about him not giving me attention. This was a simple Mirror Exercise to handle. I realized I wanted his attention and then did the following steps:
I am upset with Laurentiu because he’s not giving me attention.
I am upset with myself because I am not giving myself attention.
Is this true? Yes, since I am looking for him to give me attention, I am not giving attention to myself.
See that part of me. She needs love and attention from me. She feels peaceful and then I integrate her.
I did this Mirror Exercise without interrupting my activities. I managed it while working on some things for my business. Many upsets like this can be healed without needing to stop daily activities. I just notice them, move through them, and remain in the flow of things peacefully.
But things don’t always go smoothly...
Recently, a bigger upset occurred involving playing together. I started playing Minecraft again with some friends. I felt good about it and sensed a deeper purpose connected to my Life Purpose, so it was all exciting. Initially, I didn’t invite Laurentiu to play because I knew he doesn’t often enjoy Minecraft. However, as I played, he insisted on joining me. I was happy he wanted to play together, so we started playing. It was great, we were having fun, and after some time, Laurentiu left the game to play something else. I found it odd but didn't immediately get upset. Later, when Laurentiu returned to the game, we played again, and at the end, I asked him, “So, how did you enjoy playing together?” He responded with something along the lines of, “Oh well, I didn’t like the server because of reasons.”
This response frustrated me because I had felt a deep connection and enjoyment while playing together, and his answer felt dismissive. I took a step back and reflected on why this upset me so much. I realized it wasn’t about the game or the server, but about feeling undervalued and disconnected. So, I applied the Mirror Exercise again:
I am upset with Laurentiu because he doesn’t appreciate our time together.
I am upset with myself because I don’t appreciate my own company.
Is this true? Yes, because I am relying on his validation for our shared experience instead of valuing it myself.
See that part of me. She needs love and appreciation from me. She feels peaceful and then I integrate her.
By doing this exercise, I could move past the initial upset and return to a state of harmony. This process of continuous self-reflection and healing is essential in maintaining a harmonious relationship with my Twin Flame. It allows me to stay connected to the truth that we are one, even when external circumstances seem challenging.
These experiences illustrate the dynamic and often complex nature of Twin Flame relationships. They require ongoing effort, self-awareness, and a commitment to inner healing. But through these challenges, the bond becomes stronger and more profound, reinforcing the deep sense of unity and love that defines the Harmonious Union.
My heart sank, and that's when my earlier upset truly surfaced, though I wasn’t entirely clear on what I was upset about. I felt quite hurt by his comment, even though his reasons were technically valid. We began to argue, with me snapping at him for "not liking the server." He wasn’t at peace with playing, and I wasn’t at peace with him not playing. We often find ourselves in such predicaments, both upset for different reasons. During the argument, I realized that I was upset because he didn’t enjoy playing with me. So, I turned to the Mirror Exercise:
I am upset that Laurentiu doesn’t have fun with me.
I am upset that I don’t have fun with myself.
Is this true? Yes.
I choose to have fun with myself.
As soon as I healed this (I did the Mirror Exercise while we were talking), Laurentiu shared that he was having fun with me but not on the server, which is why he left. Then, I realized I was upset because he left while we were playing, making me feel unvalued. So, I did another round of mirroring:
I am upset that Laurentiu doesn’t value playing with me.
I am upset that I don’t value playing with myself.
Is this true? Yes.
I choose to value playing with myself and loving myself in that space.
After this, Laurentiu expressed that he was upset because he felt he had to play something he didn’t like to play with me. He then moved through his feelings using the Mirror Exercise as we were talking (I knew he healed because I felt the energy shift as we discussed the subject). I pointed out that while the server wasn’t perfect, we can’t expect perfection. I realized I was upset because it felt like Laurentiu would only play with me if the game was perfect, which games rarely are, making me feel we’d never play together. So, I mirrored:
I am upset with Laurentiu because he won’t play with me unless the game is perfect.
I am upset with myself because I won’t play with myself unless I am perfect.
Is this true? Absolutely.
I choose to love and accept myself as I am.
As we continued discussing and even shouting a bit, we both moved through these feelings. Laurentiu admitted he expected games to be perfect and decided to let that go to enjoy playing regardless. However, I still felt upset that he didn’t realize he abandoned me while we were playing, making me fear he could abandon me at any time. So, I mirrored again:
I am upset that Laurentiu doesn’t realize when he’s abandoning me, so he can come back.
I am upset that I don’t realize when I am abandoning myself, so I can return to myself.
Is this true? Yes.
I choose to love myself more.
After hearing this, Laurentiu noticed he was numb in this area and acknowledged he wanted to better recognize these issues. He had been numbing out because he didn’t see the game as something to heal about. I helped him move through that, which was significant for our Life Purpose.
This entire healing conversation, lasting about 30 minutes to an hour, involved shouting and disagreements. From the outside, it might not have looked like we were healing, but I chose to heal regardless. I know that if I choose to heal, Laurentiu chooses to heal because we are One. We both moved through different upsets, working together to achieve this healing, even if it wasn’t the most polished discussion. We’ve had worse ones, though!
It’s relieving to do inner work with your Twin Flame because you can SEE how your healing changes the mood and atmosphere in the room almost instantly. If I didn’t feel like Lau valued me, I chose to value myself. Lau then expressed how much he valued me. It’s that immediate. I didn’t do the Mirror Exercise to get value from Laurentiu; I did it to feel peaceful and improve our relationship. Because of this, he naturally aligned with my choice. I didn’t need him to value me after doing the Mirror Exercise, but he did because we are one.
Ever since achieving Harmonious Twin Flame Union, I don’t see issues as only "Laurentiu’s to heal." We move through things together, each having a piece of the healing. I don’t separate myself from him whenever he hurts me because I realize he’s helping me see something I couldn’t see before. If I heal what he presents, our relationship improves, and there’s more love between us. So why not do it? I do it. I need to heal regardless, so why delay it? Sometimes I do postpone my healing, which is silly, but I’m still learning. I’m still delving deeper into the teachings and the Mirror Exercise. It wasn’t always easy to heal during a discussion, but with practice, it has become easier.
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