TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

Encountering your twin flame often entails engaging in a perplexing exchange known as the "twin flame dance," where you oscillate between drawing close and withdrawing amidst the cycle of separation. This dynamic can be bewildering and deeply painful if the underlying purpose of this cycle remains obscure.

Numerous factors underlie the necessity of this cycle:

Initially, it's crucial to recognize that if either party isn't ready to reunite, it's because the timing isn't right. Assigning blame or pointing fingers at the other twin signifies one's own unreadiness. Embracing acceptance and striving for self-completion, without relying on the twin to fill any voids, is imperative. Despite its repetition, comprehending this is paramount. Seeking love externally instead of within oneself leads to an incomplete state. Uniting without achieving inner wholeness perpetuates enduring anguish.

Twin flame separation ensues due to a lack of unconditional self-love and acceptance, extending to the twin as well. Amidst differing perspectives and egos, harmonizing becomes arduous. Egos often obstruct agreement, with each twin perceiving matters from divergent angles. Yet, both journey towards love albeit from opposing paths, ultimately converging in the same destination. Ego-driven perceptions may lead to misconceptions of the other's actions, misconstruing expressions of love. This can result in viewing the twin as indifferent or unfeeling, fostering sentiments of coldness and cruelty.

In the past, my perspective was narrow, convinced that he was toying with my emotions and making a mockery of my feelings. I experienced profound hurt, which in turn led me to act in ways that inflicted pain upon him. Blinded by my own fear of abandonment and consumed by the need to validate his love, I failed to consider how my actions were affecting him. Reflecting on it now, I realize I was essentially reciprocating his actions in a mirrored manner. Moreover, I never acknowledged my own unreadiness to reconcile at that juncture; all my attention was fixated on him. His perceived omissions and rejections wounded my pride deeply, clouding my judgment with thoughts of painful rejection. In an attempt to shield myself from further hurt, I withdrew emotionally. While I pursued him, my actions conveyed a facade of indifference, portraying our interactions as a trivial power game. Conversely, he attempted to safeguard his emotions by provoking me to chase him, seeking reassurance of my affection, before engaging in similar behaviors as I did.

However, the fundamental aspect we often overlook is that much of this negative behavior stems from fear, which brings me to my next point:

Twin flames part ways initially because the connection feels inexplicable, challenging everything we believe about the workings of the world.

Encountering your twin flame for the first time is like a sudden revelation. There's an instant recognition, a deep-seated familiarity despite not recognizing them on a physical level. Intense feelings of love surge within you, accompanied by a perplexing sense of knowing deep in your soul. You sense a profound shift in your life, albeit without comprehending its significance. Thoughts of this person consume your mind incessantly, replaying moments of encounter repeatedly. Despite logical expectations for such feelings to diminish, your affection for them intensifies over time. They occupy your thoughts incessantly, leaving you unable to focus on anything else. Fear grips you—fear of losing them, fear of having already lost them, fear of the intensity of emotions for someone you barely know, questioning your sanity.

In response, you attempt to flee from these overwhelming emotions, convincing yourself it's mere lust. Society dictates that pining after someone for too long is unhealthy, compelling you to suppress these emotions. Yet, despite your efforts, you cannot shake them off. Unexpected encounters reignite these dormant feelings, undoing all your efforts to bury them. Coupled with mirrored fears, arguments, and confusion, the situation becomes even more daunting. At times, fleeing seems like the safer option, hoping these tumultuous emotions will vanish into thin air.

It's natural (or at least it should be acknowledged as such) that fear arises in this scenario. It becomes a primal instinct of fight or flight, often leading twin flames to flee. However, it's crucial to understand that this urge to escape is necessary to gain the necessary distance for making sense of the situation. While it might take considerable time, the essence lies in recognizing that if either you or your twin flame are in a state of "running," it's because it aligns with your life path—granting the space required to comprehend this newfound reality.

This process revolves around transcending the ego, a journey that demands patience and perseverance. It's akin to reprogramming ourselves to operate from a state of soul consciousness rather than ego consciousness, a transformation that doesn't occur overnight. After countless incarnations entrenched in ego-centric living, expecting an immediate shift to soul consciousness is unrealistic—for both ourselves and our twins.

Twin flames reconnect for reassurance.

They seek confirmation of your continued presence and affection, grappling with their own fears of unreciprocated love and the possibility that you may have moved on. Although they may deny these insecurities outwardly.

Twin flames reconnect to heal each other.

Throughout the cycle of separation and reunion, twin flames often rendezvous multiple times in the physical realm to facilitate mutual healing. Upon completing a stage of individual healing, they converge once more to exchange and amplify energy (love), necessitating subsequent separation to process these experiences. It's akin to meeting to receive a challenge; once subconsciously identified, they embark on separate paths to overcome it. Upon achieving healing, they progress to the next phase.

We separate from our twin flames when we have individual karma to balance.

Karma, the cycle of cause and effect shaped by our actions across lifetimes, must be reconciled individually before twin flames can reunite. Before incarnating into this life or any other, our souls enter agreements with others to rendezvous on the physical plane and exchange lessons. These lessons, whether challenging or uplifting, serve as integral components of our growth. Despite initially perceived negativity, every situation yields a positive lesson. Each twin must address their karmic responsibilities independently before reuniting in unity.

It is possible for us to part ways from our twin flames when our destinies lead us into other relationships.

By connecting with our twin flame, we experience heightened soulful love, provided we can set aside our egos. Frequently, we may enter into marriage with a soulmate to share and spread this enhanced love, aiding in their awakening process as well. Alternatively, we might find ourselves already committed to another relationship when we encounter our twin flame. This existing relationship serves as a classroom for love, preparing us for the eventual reunion with our twin flame. Regardless, both parties learn and grow from their respective soulmates.

Separation allows us to focus on our individual awakening without distractions.

Constant togetherness prior to reunion would merely reflect our individual voids, hindering our personal healing journeys. Moreover, it would impede our ability to reconcile individual karmic debts and diminish the catalyst for profound spiritual exploration that the longing for each other provides.

Therefore, the cyclical pattern of separation and reunion is crucial for our complete healing, awakening, and fulfillment of our mission to enlighten humanity with our knowledge and light. It's imperative to regard the journey towards reunion as equally significant as the eventual union itself. Rushing into union prematurely would only leave us unfulfilled and unresolved.

We must embrace ourselves, recognize the signs of our twin flame, and refrain from assigning blame for not being ready at this moment. It's all part of the process, an integral aspect of the path we agreed upon before our births. Embrace your journey and yourselves, trusting that everything will unfold in perfect harmony and timing.