TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

What is the sensation of meeting someone who has occupied your thoughts for so long? What unfolds between the two individuals? Explore how the connection between twin flames is forged into unity through their actions and reactions.

For certain individuals, the "point of no return" commences the moment their souls acknowledge each other's existence.

Every action thought, and emotion is imbued with purpose, although we may not always comprehend the underlying reasons. Some rationales elude our awareness, as we tend to focus on the apparent. By following a logical progression of thoughts, one could posit that certain people cross our paths for a purpose in our lifetime. While we maintain connections with some, we also sever ties with many. Throughout this series of events, we undergo a continuous process of learning, evolving, and revisiting certain lessons repeatedly. For example, individuals often reconcile with friends, make amends with past adversaries, apologize to those they abandoned, and mend relationships with those they still cherish. Simultaneously, some individuals who were once excluded may be allowed back into our lives at a specific juncture.

Collectively, these incidents constitute a journey to discover the one who complements us—the 'one' lost during our evolution, often referred to as the twin flame. Reconnecting with someone from the past, who played a pivotal role in revealing one's true self, is encapsulated poignantly by Plato's words: "... and when one of them meets the other half, the actual half of himself, whether he be a lover of youth or a lover of another sort, the pair are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy and one will not be out of the other’s sight, as I may say, even for a moment..." This enchantment, rare and potent, once recognized and experienced, creates an unbreakable magnetic field. Despite attempts to escape due to minor disagreements and steadfast perspectives, individuals continue striving because they are ensnared in the perpetual process of evolution, learning, and perhaps at times, unlearning. Let us delve into the perpetual quest that defines our lives and the repercussions of finding what we seek.

What constitutes a Twin Flame?

The concept of twin flames has been extensively discussed and debated, garnering both attention and skepticism. On an instinctive and personal level, individuals universally feel a magnetic attraction toward someone, an inexplicable connection that draws them closer. These individuals occupy our thoughts, subtly influencing our actions. The essence of the twin flame concept is rooted in unraveling this phenomenon.

According to belief, twin flames were originally a single soul that, at a certain juncture, divided into two to undergo distinct experiences and individual growth through various lifetimes. Unbeknownst to them, each sought the other to share these experiences. This longing, though unfulfilled, compelled the two souls to fervently seek each other across the stages of life. Some incarnations saw their reunion, while in others, they continued the quest. The reunification of these fragmented souls brought a sense of completeness. While each soul existed independently for happiness, the togetherness enhanced their fulfillment.

It is posited that an individual has only one twin soul, with whom encounters are shared through successive lifetimes until the full spectrum of human experience is traversed. Nature's forces sometimes conspire to unite these separated souls, while at other times, the same forces may pull them apart. Yet, each pursuit of union results in elevated highs compared to the lows of separation.

Stages of a Twin Flame Relationship: The Preparation

Originating from different worlds and being distinct personalities, when these souls come together, they forge their path and create a unique world. In this world, they are united, while everyone else remains on the periphery. The initial stage unfolds even before the souls physically meet. It involves one or both fragmented souls undergoing a personal crisis or transformative event that prompts them to seek 'The One.' Whether triggered by a painful breakup, a challenging divorce, or the termination of an abusive relationship, such experiences propel the search for long-yearned love. The conclusion of these karmic relationships propels the individual, through every initiation, instance, and intuition, toward their twin flame. This stage serves as a preparation where, despite physical separation, the souls equip themselves by understanding the desires of the incomplete self. The quest may not always stem from a negative ending but could also result from cosmic timing and an earnest desire to achieve self-completion.

Encounter and Acknowledgment

The initial meeting or chance encounter marks the moment in this lifetime when individuals first encounter their twin flame. It's a connection formed instantly, devoid of any hesitation. The recognition is so precise that empirical validation becomes unnecessary. Many synchronous events have already surrounded the union, known to the individuals before reaching this meeting point. Upon meeting their twin flame, hearts swiftly open, merging into an indescribable unified energy. As the two merge, the external world fades away, giving rise to an unforgettable bond that will be pursued for years to come.

Trial Phase

Despite the profound chemistry, the two may not immediately embark on a romantic relationship. Inhibitions and reservations from past experiences, conditioned subconscious and conscious minds guarding against emotional vulnerability, and residual effects of evolution hinder immediate surrender. This understanding leads to a testing crisis, where one or both attempt to fit the relationship into the conventional model of love—a period of love narcosis, followed by a mellowing courtship and ultimately an uninspiring relationship. This adherence to learned beliefs, driven by ego, can lead to the relationship crumbling under the weight of egotistical attitudes.

Ego Conflict

Stuck in the conventional relationship model, the twin flames fail to realize that their egoistic beliefs must be relinquished to embrace a love that transcends their perspectives. Despite the recognition's strength, dysfunctional emotional patterns emerge, causing anxiety, fear, confusion, and rage until surrender occurs. The twin flames seek refuge in each other's confessions, forgiveness, rare bonding, and lovemaking, navigating the highs and lows, forming the sinusoidal wave of life. These experiences aim to erase preconceived notions, cleanse the trained subconsciousness, and unlearn past beliefs about relationships for a higher spiritual awakening.

Ego Battle Resolution

As the twin flames continue to navigate the conflicts arising from ego clashes, they may assume the roles of the runner and the chaser. The undissolved human ego, threatened by the cumulative energy of the twin souls, prompts the runner to flee, defending itself with various mechanisms. The chaser becomes the recipient of the runner's defiance, resistance, anger, deceit, punishments, ignorance, judgment, and annihilating antics. The prolonged abandonment wrecks both souls, leading to a journey of withdrawal. The chaser, realizing the significance, attempts to recreate the unified harmony, while the runner may struggle to understand the potential outcome of ego dissolution. The ongoing conflict results in the roles of the runner and the chaser.

Runner and Chaser Dynamics

While the twin flames continue to learn the dynamics of their magnetism and balance their energies, they assume the roles of runner and chaser. This stage is characterized by pain, heartbreak, and incomprehensible acts and emotions. As the undissolved human ego is threatened by the cumulative energy of the twin souls, it flees. It runs as far away as it can, defending itself with every possible mechanism that imagination holds for it. The chaser becomes the helpless receiver of the runner’s defiance, resistance, anger, deceit, punishments, ignorance, judgment, and annihilating antics. As the abandonment continues for a time frame, it wrecks the souls, and both of them embark on a journey to withdraw. But for the chaser, the realization is much bigger, and thus, usually, this one soul tries to recreate the unified harmony that once existed between the two. However, rarely will the runner see what the death of ego can give birth to. So, the flames now enter the next phase of surrender to time, the greater cosmic energy, known to us as the healer of most painful wounds.

Patient Surrender

The devastation that the relationship did is left to an undefined period for restoration. At this stage, the future of the twin flames is left to a realization of a higher consciousness. The chaser soul allows the other the time and space to realize the loss, evolve at its own pace, and return with compassion for unification. This twin continues to hold a space in the heart for the runner while engaging in a fulfilling life experience on Earth. For most chasers, this period is invested in channeling their energy into learning various forms of arts and expression. The stage allows both souls the time to let go of their egos, develop a language that the two of them understand, and reconnect with earnestness. Perfectly summed up as self-realization, the twin flames, thus, begin gravitating to reunite at the stage of illumination and radiance.

Illumination and Radiance

As egos fade, unified energy takes charge, leading the twin flames to a complete spiritual awakening. Not only are the two souls awake in their every movement and moment, but are consciously intertwined in each other’s energies too. Together they illuminate each other’s souls with an understanding of their sacred relationship. They radiate a divine love that heals their wounds and brings them closer each day.

Harmony

Together they seek a communion defined by stark transparency and unconditional love. This is the last stage of a total twin flame reunion whose purpose all this while was to seek a deeper meaning to life, to give it meaning with spiritual companionship, and to engrave an epitome, here on Earth, of beauty that attracts every secret scout of a serendipitous ending that can happen at least once in a lifetime.

The understanding of a twin flame relationship is different for every union. Some of them may go through each of these phases, while some may find their harmony in the first stage itself. The timeline can never be defined, and one cannot ever ascertain two individuals as twin flames. Thus, the confusion hangs heavy in the air about how would you know whether you’ve met your twin flame. What happens? And how are you ever to find out? These questions have answers too! Meeting a twin flame is not like having a crush on somebody. It is not just falling for the way they look, smell, or talk. There is much more to it than what meets the eye. Much more happens than what your heart can grasp or your head can understand. And here’s what that is.

Signs You’ve Met Your Twin Flame

Unusual Meeting

Before you meet your twin flame, several synchronicities are leading you to them. It could be seeing numbers such as 1111, 2222, 3333, and so on. It could also be many such repeated patterns that are all conspiring to conjure this meeting between the two. Some of these signs you may notice, but may not be able to decipher, while some may go unnoticed too. However, it is usually under a strange circumstance that you will meet your twin flame. Probably in a place where you were not supposed to be or in a situation that had never crossed your imagination. These synchronicities are only pointing out to you that they weren’t strange coincidences, but a planned series of events that made you focus (subconsciously) towards finding the one.

Instant Connection

The connection is instant. Just one look and that is all that it takes to know that you have known this one person for all your life.

“Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.” ― Bruce Lee

That you deeply recognize them, from a distant past, belonging to a time that you shared. Oddly, you find yourself recognizing your twin flame’s every habit and gesticulation right from the sound of their voice to the smell of the skin. This isn’t like having the hots for someone or having a crush on someone. It is more akin to the relation your subconscious mind makes your flame’s conscious acts. There is no need or the desire to impress, but simply to fit together as pieces of a puzzle that the two of you are a part of. Everything about your twin soul brings a comforting sense of familiarity. Meeting the person evokes a sense of ‘coming home’. It is falling in love at first sight, in the truest sense.

Unique Communication

Communication is not limited to the knowledge of a common language. It is a need that is satisfied through a unique language code, which only the twin flames understand. A complete unity and an incomparable oneness are sought and derived out of a heightened sense of communication that the twin flames possess for each other.

Total Togetherness

Twin flames know no distance. Like conventional couples, they are not governed by the sadness that separation bestows. A closeness is already sought in the way the two communicate without having to say anything. Communication is a form of reflection between the two. Your twin flame mirrors your needs, desires, concerns, ambitions, dreams, and hopes about those things that matter in your life. The two will also complement each other’s skill sets and talents, to make each other truly complete.

Spiritual Awakening

There are times when you find yourself stuck in a relationship that is emotionally unavailable and incredibly unsatisfying. The reverse of this happens the moment you meet your twin flame. You begin to unlock the layers of emotions you kept away from exploring and feeling with your twin flame. There is acceptance, honesty, healing, and fulfillment of your emotional needs. The balancing act in a relationship becomes equal, better, stronger, and much more sustainable than any of your previous relationships. All of this put together culminates into an experience of a spiritual awakening and a perspective on life that never existed before.

Intimacy

The individuality of each soul that existed so far is merged into one.

“In your light, I learn how to love. In your beauty, how to make poems. You dance inside my chest where no one sees you, but sometimes I do, and that sight becomes this art.” ― Rumi

The act of intimacy is so primal, raw, and beyond normal comprehension that it can hardly be explained in words. This is the reason a physical act becomes the real communication for both the flames. This intimacy might be led or dominated by the male twin, while the female twin might make a due surrender. The male and female twins in this context are mere energies and not the genders themselves. It is in this union that intensity and complexity find their purpose and release.

Sense of Completeness

There is a sense of completeness that possibly cannot be described in words. The twin flames come closer and closer with each passing experience shared. They discover more about themselves than they would have with other people. This sign of having found your twin flame can only be felt once the twins reach the stage of harmony with each other.

An interesting facet about twin flames is that they may be people belonging to the same gender, they may share huge age differences, and they will usually only meet under the strangest of circumstances. A female avatar of a certain twin flame may carry a male energy, while the male embodiment may have a female energy. Regardless of these complexities, the two souls will always fit together as though they were missing pieces of the same puzzle.

The concept of twin flames is often confused and misunderstood as that of a soulmate. The mere difference is that soulmates promise each other to reincarnate on earthly planes to help each other, learn from each other, and guide each other. These patterns may continue, and there may be several whom you make this promise. However, there exists only one twin flame for you in your entire journey of a human experience. Only this one soul is going to be your vice, and you, its versa.