TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

The process of reuniting with one's twin flame is marked by challenges, fascination, and confusion for both partners involved, often extending to those around them. In a prior article titled "How Do I Know If I’ve Found My Twin Flame?" we delved into the characteristics of a twin flame connection and explored why this type of relationship holds significance for the partners and the broader world. Unfortunately, upon discovery, a twin flame partner may exhibit cryptic, distant, or unpredictable behavior, deviating from the familiar persona one remembers.

In our piece "Tips for Navigating the Twin Flame Experience," we outlined common and effective strategies to assist partners in managing the profound connection and understanding the overwhelming feelings and obstacles they encounter. The twin flame connection challenges societal norms of independence, control, and prioritizing self-survival instincts, offering a glimpse into the true meanings of unconditional love and oneness, while compelling acceptance of vulnerability as a sign of strength. Although destined for a permanent reunion, the journey can span many years, decades, or even lifetimes. Despite its divine and magical nature, the reunion process is far from the idealized fairy tale.

Consciously and unconsciously, twin flame partners may engage in behaviors that initially seem counter-productive, detrimental, or hurtful. However, these actions ultimately serve their soul missions and aid them in assisting others in their world. Various factors, including free will, human egos, time lines, and more, contribute to the speed and smoothness of the permanent twin flame reunion.

If a twin flame relationship appears to be faltering, there is no need for discouragement. The journey may be painful and time-consuming, but there are meaningful reasons for periodic delays, difficulties, and heartaches.

During the "runner phase," despite the undeniable energetic compatibility between partners, at least one twin will distance themselves from the relationship. The runner may employ tactics such as sabotage, avoidance, or setting strict boundaries to avoid emotional dependence, fearing potential pain if the relationship were to fail. To distract themselves, runners may seek less intense relationships, "play the field," or immerse themselves in other endeavors. These efforts aim to help runners overcome the powerful twin flame connection. Given enough space, most runners eventually awaken to the significance of their twin and realize that no other relationship, destination, or activity can replace their twin flame connection.

STRENGTHENING OTHER ASPECTS OR PURSUITS: The twin flame relationship demands a significant amount of attention, focus, and energy, leading both partners to synchronize their mental, physical, and emotional aspects. This intense focus on the union can sometimes result in the neglect or demotion of other crucial areas such as career, family, and relationships, as well as the overall physical well-being of one or both individuals. Consequently, one or both parties may subconsciously postpone the discovery of the twin connection or a permanent reunion until they have fortified and achieved success in these other vital aspects of life. Hence, "getting one's house in order" and capitalizing on other significant opportunities can expedite the reunion process, ensuring that both parties are thoroughly prepared when it occurs.

ADDRESSING ADDICTIONS OR ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR: The potent nature of the twin flame connection typically catalyzes positive transformations for both partners, albeit through a highly intense, challenging, and often tumultuous journey. Even the most confident, intelligent, and capable twin partners may find themselves more emotionally charged, less rational, and volatile during the reunion process than anticipated. Consequently, if one or both partners exhibit tendencies toward addictive, compulsive, or abusive behaviors, the permanent twin flame reunion may face delays. While the reunion aims to strengthen both parties, it is crucial that they navigate the process without causing physical harm to themselves or each other. Consequently, specific timing or events may be necessary to precede the reunion, preventing irreparable damage to those involved.

EXTERNAL TIME LINES: Twin flame relationships serve the primary purpose of fortifying both individuals to better contribute to others in their world. Occasionally, one or both parties may temporarily engage in other relationships or pursuits to shape or preserve a timeline deemed significant for the planet. Consequently, many twin partners may be married to other individuals or have children from previous relationships, especially around the time of meeting their twin. These additional relationships and interactions not only provide valuable "practice" for the twin but also often result in positive growth or necessary outcomes for the other parties involved. Thus, if a twin reunion experiences delays or setbacks, it is likely that one or both parties are actively influencing someone else's timeline for a greater good before the permanent twin reunion can take place, either here or beyond.

SOUL MATE(S) AS PREPARATION FOR YOUR TWIN: Nearly every twin flame partner encounters at least one profoundly deep soul mate connection with another individual, resembling the dynamics of a twin flame relationship. This deep soul connection holds significant resonance, often sharing a similar or familiar frequency and belonging to a larger soul family that feels like home. In contrast, a twin flame is essentially an individual's soul counterpart. While many twin partners describe deep soul connections as remarkably similar to a twin flame in many positive aspects, they are ultimately intended to prepare an individual for their true twin rather than serving as "the one." In certain instances, these deep connections may fade away or disintegrate before the actual twin reunion. Occasionally, a deep soul connection may persist throughout one's life, offering support or serving as a contrast to the actual twin. Therefore, if a strong relationship dissipates for an extended period, if it is one of many positive and meaningful connections, or if the relationship no longer contributes to personal growth, it may not be the actual twin.

RELUCTANCE TO EMBRACE THE "WORST FIRST" DYNAMIC: Unfortunately, a prominent characteristic of a genuine twin flame reunion is that the initial 3-10 years or more can be tumultuous, presenting every imaginable challenge, discomfort, and lesson. In a twin flame relationship, if the partners choose to endure and navigate through these exceptionally rough patches, the sense of "completion," confidence, and ease in the relationship actually intensifies over time because the most challenging times and aspects of both parties were confronted initially. Conversely, deep soul mate connections often commence positively and may endure for a while, but eventually prove insufficient, especially when confronted with new challenges or personal nuances. Many twin flame partners consciously or unconsciously opt to postpone their reunion in favor of pursuing deep soul mate connections that are typically less demanding or painful, particularly in the early phases. Both the twin flame and soul mate connections serve their purpose in fortifying and evolving individuals, preparing them for the subsequent phases of life and beyond.

Neither type of relationship is inherently "right" or "wrong," better or worse—rather, they differ in when, how, and how intensely they manifest positive and negative experiences. The multitude of challenges and complexities associated with a reunion reveals that twin flame partners were not originally intended to reunite within the same lifetime. Their design involves taking turns incarnating so that one can support the other from beyond. Presently, the intense energies and perspectives offered by twin flame reunions are crucial for this planet and its people, prompting more twin flame couples to incarnate together during this period. This situation is uncomfortable, unfamiliar, and often unsettling for both partners, resulting in frequent delays or postponements of permanent reunions to adequately prepare both individuals—as strong individuals and as a powerful couple.