TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

Discovering your twin flame is a thrilling experience—the embodiment of your mirror soul. However, the prospect of parting ways with them always lingers. While no one is exempt from this potentially agonizing process, it's crucial to understand that it doesn't signify the end. Every twin flame relationship undergoes five distinct stages of separation:

The conflict stage ("The Test"):

Upon meeting your twin flame, a sense of awakening envelops you, as if destiny has finally been realized. The initial allure is irresistible. Just when everything seems perfect, conflicts arise, a common occurrence in both conventional and twin-flame relationships. As the honeymoon phase concludes, you may become irritated with your mirror soul, seeing reflections of traits you despise in yourself. Reciprocally, they may find your behavior irksome. Regardless of who raises concerns first, the relationship hits a rocky patch. Resolving conflicts involves acknowledging the situation, expressing feelings openly, defining the issue, determining mutual needs, finding common ground, and brainstorming solutions.

The crisis stage:

Problems are inevitable in any relationship, including one with your twin flame. The difference lies in how you and your mirror soul handle these challenges. Collaborative problem-solving may prevent a full-blown crisis. If not addressed, it can escalate to the 'running and chasing stage.' To navigate the crisis, strengthen the twin flame bond by focusing inward, leveraging your strengths, preventing energy drain, maintaining optimism, and seeking professional help if necessary.

The Stage of Pursuit and Evasion (Separation):

This is the phase that many twin flames find challenging—the pursuit. It marks the initiation of the separation itself. Unfortunately, this stage is unavoidable and can be brief, spanning a few weeks, or prolonged, lasting several months to a few years. According to relationship expert Mary J. Gibson, it "will arise no matter how you worked through the previous stage."

Runner:

The running phase unfolds when one mirror soul becomes fearful or overwhelmed by the profound bond they share. Incapable of handling the issues at hand, they feel compelled to escape and shield themselves from potential suffering. Apart from exiting the relationship, the runner may opt to avoid or ignore their twin flame, seeking solace in others, particularly someone they perceive as 'safe.' In more distressing situations, they may turn to vices such as alcohol or drugs.

Chaser:

Conversely, in a relationship with a runner, there emerges the twin flame chaser, often left heartbroken when their mirror soul distances themselves. Paradoxically, the more the chaser pursues, the greater the likelihood that their twin flame will flee. As the chaser, you may feel as if a part of you has died when your mirror soul leaves, a sentiment psychics refer to as the 'night of the soul.' This period is characterized by feelings of loss and depression, akin to a sense of purposelessness. Despite this dark experience, it signifies a transformative process, leading to the emergence of a renewed personality.

Reasons for Twin Flames Separation:

Twin flames part ways for various reasons, and it's not a haphazard occurrence. Here are some explanations:

Your twin flame is not yet ready:

Often, the runner, one of the mirror souls, is not prepared for a passionate relationship. Feeling the need to escape, they abandon their twin flame, prompting the other to chase them.

Immaturity:

Apart from being unprepared, the runner may lack emotional or spiritual maturity compared to their twin flame. If one is growing while the other is not, the relationship falls out of alignment.

Lack of self-love:

A twin flame relationship can be marred by jealousy or codependency if one lacks self-love. This arises from the belief that they need another to complete them, whereas true fulfillment comes from being whole individually.

One or both parties still need to grow:

Even if the timing is opportune, a relationship won't succeed if one or both twin flames still need personal growth. Some may opt for separation as a means of pursuing individual growth.

Lesson learned:

Twin flames traverse numerous lifetimes to teach each other valuable lessons. Once the lesson is learned, separation may become inevitable, though it doesn't signify the end. Perhaps the timing isn't right, and a reunion may happen after further waiting.

Considering Outside Guidance:

While the aforementioned reasons provide insights into why twin flames separate, it's challenging to have absolute certainty. If you're questioning whether the breakup occurred because of you, seeking external guidance may offer valuable perspectives on the situation.

The anguish of separation, accompanied by illness and despondency, parallels the emotional toll of any breakup, and parting ways with your twin flame is no exception. For some, this experience is described as overwhelmingly intense and incapacitating, shattering hopes and dreams, and rendering life a seemingly endless void. Consequently, numerous twin flames who have undergone separation find themselves grappling with depression. Contrary to prevailing beliefs, this emotional pain and depression are not exclusive to the chaser; the runner also endures the same agony. They yearn for their mirror soul but may perceive it as unwise to immediately reunite with their partner. Beyond emotional distress, physically manifested symptoms such as stomach and chest pains are reported by some separated twin flames. Additionally, during the separation phase, both the chaser and runner may encounter synchronicities—events that serve as poignant reminders of their twin flame.

Amid separation's poignant aftermath, where pain, illness, and depression intertwine, the toll mirrors the anguish of any typical breakup. The intensity of this experience, described by some as incapacitating, leaves shattered dreams and a pervasive sense of emptiness. Depression often becomes an unwelcome companion for many twin flames navigating the aftermath of separation.

Contrary to common misconceptions, the emotional turmoil and depression are not confined to the chaser alone. The runner, too, grapples with the same piercing agony. Although they yearn for their mirror soul, a sense of cautious restraint may lead them to delay a swift reunion with their partner. Alongside the emotional turmoil, physical manifestations of separation pain, including stomach and chest pains, haunt some twin flames.

Amid this challenging phase, synchronicities emerge as subtle yet poignant reminders for both the chaser and the runner. These events, laden with meaning, serve as echoes of the profound connection shared with their twin flame. As the journey through separation unfolds, it becomes a crucible for profound introspection, transformation, and the potential for renewed connection down the road. The pain is a chapter, not the entirety of the story, as the twin flames navigate the intricate dance of separation, growth, and the eventual promise of reunion.