TWIN FLAME HEALING: UNDERSTANDING THE PROCESS

 

The term "twin flame" is gaining popularity alongside the familiar concept of a "soul mate." Although it may seem interchangeable with the latter, the distinction is significant. A "twin flame" holds a level of importance surpassing that of a soul mate, and interestingly, one can experience both connections.

So, what does "twin flame" mean? According to the prevailing theory, it involves two individuals who, despite occupying separate bodies, share a singular soul. Essentially, they are two bodies housing one soul. The significance of twin flames eclipses that of soul mates, resembling a heightened form of spiritual connection. Chris Pleines notes, "While you may encounter numerous soul mates in your lifetime, a twin flame is a unique, singular connection."

In the book "You Only Fall in Love Three Times," writer and relationship coach Kate Rose provides insight into twin flames, characterizing them as profoundly interconnected spiritual relationships. This type of love goes beyond the conventional understanding of meeting one's other half or The One. Instead, it is a transformative relationship that extends beyond cozy nights together, leading individuals back to their true selves.

Distinguishing between a twin flame and a soul mate, Rose emphasizes that a soul mate is someone with whom we've traversed multiple lifetimes. Unlike the intense lessons and captivating energy ties of a twin flame, a soul mate relationship feels more like reuniting with an old friend, devoid of specific profound lessons or deep connections.

How did the concept of "twin flames" originate?

As per Healthline, the term "twin flame" was initially coined in the 1970s by Elizabeth Clare Prophet, a New Age spiritual leader. In 1999, she further explored this idea in her book titled "Soul Mates and Twin Flames: The Spiritual Dimension of Love and Relationships." Notably, the notion of a single soul divided into two bodies has roots in various spiritual and philosophical traditions, including Plato's Symposium from the 5th century BC.

Wondering if you've encountered your twin flame? Here are some indicators:

While a soul mate is often associated with romantic connections, a twin flame doesn't necessarily hinge on romance. While the allure of romantic involvement is undeniable, according to Pat58, a relationship expert and psychic adviser, the essence of a twin flame connection goes beyond mere romance. It centers on a profound connection built upon shared experiences and commonalities from the past, distinguishing it from the strictly romantic connotations of a soul mate.

The primary purpose of a twin flame is mutual growth and learning. According to Cara Kovacs, a relationship expert based in NYC, in spiritual teachings, twin flames are considered two halves of a single soul that unite to impart profound lessons to each other. The dynamic between you and your twin flame is geared towards aiding each other's personal growth and development, contributing to the realization of your true selves.

A twin flame connection may exhibit a fluctuating nature, as highlighted by Channa Bromley, a relationship and dating coach. Twin flame relationships don't need to endure indefinitely. Once the essential lessons are assimilated, the continuity of the relationship becomes optional. The transformative growth and healing derived from the twin flame dynamic contribute to personal completeness.

The dynamics of a twin flame relationship can be characterized by heightened tension and intense emotions, in contrast to the complementary nature of soul mate relationships, according to Kovacs. Rather than completing each other, twin flames propel one another toward growth. This aligns with the notion that tension is an inherent element of any growth process. Despite the potential for conflict, twin-flame relationships ultimately catalyze individual healing.

Awareness of each other's imperfections becomes pronounced post the initial honeymoon phase, as explained by Pleines. This awareness can trigger feelings of anxiety that may impact the stability of the relationship.

Despite the challenges, a profound sense of familiarity characterizes twin flame connections. According to Kovacs, this inexplicable familiarity translates into instant comfort. As the relationship unfolds, shared details from upbringing, such as both being adopted or attending the same events without ever meeting, may emerge. The encounter with a twin flame is described as simultaneously intense and familiar.

Your twin flame will evoke a sense of "home" for you, providing complete understanding and acceptance. Paulette Sherman, Ph.D., a psychologist and dating expert, notes that you and your twin flame are likely to share common interests, thoughts, strengths, and weaknesses.

Acting as mirrors for each other, you and your twin flame will eventually reflect one another in a way that addresses deeply rooted wounds from childhood or even past lives, according to Kovacs. This mirror-like quality contributes to the dramatic elements often encountered in twin flame relationships, as it brings to the forefront everything that individuals have been avoiding or denying.

The longevity of a twin flame relationship is not guaranteed, as even if you find your twin flame, a breakup may occur. Similar to any relationship, the key lies in how conflicts and differences are managed. Pleines emphasizes that the conflicts arising during the crisis stage, and the subsequent resolution of these conflicts, determine the duration of the relationship.

Finding one's twin flame is not a universal experience, but for those who do, it has the potential to be a profoundly transformative and life-changing form of love, as stated by Pat. While not everyone reunites with their twin flame in their lifetime, the possibility of such a reunion suggests a unique and once-in-a-lifetime love, according to Pat.

The Stages of a Twin Flame Relationship

According to Pleines, a twin flame relationship unfolds through six stages:

Awakening:

In the initial stage, there is a heightened awareness of a profound connection with someone who is identified as your twin flame.

Purging and Healing:

Meeting your twin flame initiates an internal process, leading to the purging of past traumas and the commencement of a healing journey.

Running and Chasing:

As awareness of the twin flame connection deepens, there is a dynamic of push-and-pull as the individuals attempt to separate, only to be drawn back together by the undeniable connection.

Surrender:

In this stage, twin flames cease to resist their connection and instead trust in the unfolding of fate.

Harmonization:

The twin flames begin to unite and collaborate, working together toward mutual goals.

Union:

The final stage sees the twin flames working together in union. This can manifest as a romantic relationship, but it could also take the form of a close friendship or a profound spiritual connection. While the union may not last a lifetime, it remains a potent force in the life story of those involved.