The involvement of the spouse in the meeting of Twin Flames carries a distinct role, whether or not they are aware of their participation in this "love triangle." Human instinct tends to resist such a notion, leading to resentment for being entangled in what was supposed to be a happily ever after. However, it is crucial not to dismiss the spouse as an anomaly in an otherwise perfect love story. The spouse's presence is likely to persist in both lives for an extended period.
Blaming the spouse for not being with us is not the answer; if our beloved truly desired to leave, nothing would hinder them. People often choose to remain married even after encountering and acknowledging their twin, and attributing fault to the spouse is misplaced. Resentment towards the partner's spouse may arise, suspecting fear-based tactics to prevent them from moving on. Yet, these decisions often stem from the individual's psyche rather than being held hostage by the spouse.
For those who stay, internal conflicts are palpable, leading to self-doubt and a repetitive cycle of approaching and retreating. It becomes a challenging journey, akin to dealing with a lost puppy that consistently returns home. Despite pleading for integrity and truth, one is met with projections, avoidance, and pain.
Being the "third wheel" necessitates a steep learning curve, prompting an inner journey toward finding peace with the situation. Love becomes a guide toward wholeness, and the emotional attachment to a specific relationship type gradually wanes. Spiritual and emotional development fosters compassion for both the beloved and their spouse, prompting a reevaluation of one's relationships.
Consider the possibility that lessons and growth within this complexity could benefit the connection and foster mutual love. Exploring deeper reasons for the spouse's choice to stay can transform challenges into stepping stones for self-discovery and spiritual growth.
One significant aspect is how the spouse validates their self-perception. Every relationship, no matter its dysfunction, supports an individual's self-perception. Constructs of the ego, such as the Good Christian or the Happily Married Man, reinforce how they see themselves. Being a "shithead" becomes a self-permission to justify negative behaviors. Questioning this construct may lead to blame for having expectations. Recognizing the importance of self-love is crucial, as the beloved needs to accept both their light and darkness. Until they do, they may be more comfortable with someone highlighting their imperfections rather than someone seeing their perfection. Despite the inclination to feel sorry for such individuals, they actively participate in maintaining the status quo through reinforced behaviors, often due to fear of stepping up or not being ready for a deeper, equal union.
They are energetically intertwined
At times, the soul perceives truths we may not be prepared to acknowledge, revealing the presence of other energetic connections that act as obstacles. This holds whether it is you or your twin who is married. As long as existing relationships persist, the "twin" may evade a deeper connection, unable to recognize the offered connection due to these energetic ties. The spiritual cords binding the lovers convey the influence of this other energy, making it impossible for deception about one's relationship status to go unnoticed by their soul, leading them to behave authentically.
The oscillation between attraction and withdrawal arises from the internal conflict between the heart's desire for union and the soul's restraint from taking necessary steps. A poignant description from another source characterizes it as the heart resisting established boundaries, while the soul prevents the crossing of those boundaries. This dynamic can create the illusion of being led on when, in reality, it's the heart revealing the truth while the soul restrains full expression.
Rather than trying to change the situation, accepting the relationship as it is becomes crucial. Loving without attachments means refraining from pushing for more and avoiding compromises to integrity, such as cheating or attempting to break up a marriage. Instead, trusting the individuals involved to address their issues in their own time and manner is essential. Genuine love and respect for the beloved prevent actions that could harm or interfere with their marriage, guided by inner intuition.
The spouse aids in working through karmic lessons
Given that we are here to accelerate each other's growth, it follows that when stagnation occurs, our arrival can propel each other forward. The entrance of the beloved often brings to light the inner work required for both parties. The spouse may play a role in assisting the twin with their inner and karmic work. Abruptly ending the marriage could hinder the learning of necessary lessons, leading to a potential return to the marriage or pursuit of another relationship to complete the task.
Acknowledging that everyone has certain priorities and tasks to fulfill is essential. Some of these tasks must take precedence over the desire to be with the beloved. Meeting the beloved should act as a catalyst, urging individuals to fulfill their purpose rather than providing an excuse to avoid essential work. Recognizing that each person is part of a larger picture with interconnected roles is crucial.
The spouse adheres to old templates and patterns
Frequently, a married individual or individuals emotionally detach from the marriage before encountering their "twin." However, ingrained beliefs, such as the permanence of marriage, may keep them from leaving. Societal expectations heavily weigh on married individuals to commit for life, often with support from friends and family regardless of the circumstances. The dilemma for a married twin is challenging, as the obligation to stay married is becoming outdated and no longer serves anyone, not even the spouse being "protected."
It's important to remember that stepping into the old template to perfect it for the twin is a romantic fantasy that leads to disillusionment. Attempting to fit the spiritual connection into conventional marriage patterns is futile, as the connection operates on a higher vibrational level incompatible with the old paradigm. Recognizing that the beloved is a friend of the soul, not the ego, and understanding that the connection defies familiar relationship patterns is crucial.
He is content where he is
What if their heart is divided between you and the spouse? What if loving one person does not negate the love for another? Some individuals feel this way, choosing a partnership that provides breathing space without disrupting their current situation.
In such cases, avoid envying the relationship your beloved has with their spouse or life partner. Respect their existing relationship, refrain from intentional interference, and understand that true love does not seek ownership. Nothing and no one can replace the unique connection between you and your beloved.
Instead, offer something novel and different. Building together to suit both of you is the goal. You are here to call your beloved to awareness of limiting patterns and aid in their growth and evolution. The love you share should become a benchmark for them when comparing future relationships, emphasizing love, acceptance, patience, and closeness to spirituality.
In conclusion, navigating this dynamic is challenging and requires effort. Recognition of union and harmony occurs once limiting patterns are shed, and self-love is fully embraced. This involves seeing oneself not as a rescuer or in need of rescue but as a sovereign, equal partner to someone who matches one's vibration, awakening and reminding each other of home.
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