Twin Flames and other profound soul connections cannot unite within a co-dependent bond. The affection these souls share is too immaculate, radiant, and divine to accommodate a dynamic rooted in co-dependency.
Nevertheless, the conditioning and life circumstances into which many twin flames are born often lead them to perceive co-dependent relationships as the sole form of affection. Consequently, I hold the view that patterns of co-dependency constitute a major impediment for Twins seeking to attain Union.
Do we possess the capacity to distinguish between codependency and the love of twin flames? Can we differentiate between unconditional love and becoming submissive? Can we discern between setting healthy boundaries and alienating others?
All Twin Flames are naturally inclined towards Union. While this might not necessarily manifest fully within our current lifetime, it remains an intrinsic yearning of our souls. However, how we have comprehended love has frequently been dysfunctional.
Nearly all advanced souls have encountered substantial challenges during their upbringing, often born into families characterized by dysfunction or damage. Healthy love wasn't typically modeled for us. Our formative years generally lacked exposure to healthy expressions of love.
Additionally, prevailing notions about "love" have become outdated. Twin Flame Union doesn't fit the conventional mold of a "relationship." The conventional template of "relationships" no longer harmonizes with contemporary society. However, this isn't necessarily negative. From a cosmic perspective, the resurgence of the Divine Feminine is underway, reuniting with the Divine Masculine in a profound Union. This mission is a key aspect of the Twin Flame's purpose - to redefine ideas about "love" and support the resurgence of the Feminine.
Nonetheless, the journey starts with healing.
Codependency and Healing the Inner Child
The imbalanced affection exhibited in co-dependency stems from our wounded inner child. Unprocessed and deep-seated wounds prompt us to either cling excessively or inadvertently push our Twin away.
The wounded inner child perceives inadequacy within themselves. This perception, learned over time, becomes a recurring theme in their universe until they find healing. Our bodies, education, competencies, and identities are all deemed inadequate. Essentially, being our authentic selves is deemed insufficient.
The path to genuine healing doesn't involve battling the critical inner voice or attempting to numb it through substances or achievements. Instead, we must aim to rescue this inner voice - an integral component of ourselves that has been severed and wounded. It's our inner child yearning for solace and healing.
Certainly, the twin flame journey embodies a process of ascension. There's no route other than upwards. Interestingly, the intuitive, divinely connected facet of ourselves leading this ascension is our inner child. The subconscious mind occasionally perplexes us through its expressions. To ascend, we must descend into the depths of our pain, retrieve our inner child, heal them, and allow them to experience joy once more.
Feeling inadequate often leads to attempting to mend others. This is usually easier, as it avoids addressing our pain.
Healing and Attempting to Fix Others
Understanding the complexities of the human mind can be facilitated by acknowledging various sub-personalities within us. For instance, alongside our inner child, we possess an inner parent. When the inner child remains unhealed, the inner parent typically becomes excessively responsible and imbalanced.
An overprotective inner parent reflects feelings of inadequacy. This feeling prompts an inclination to fix others as a means of evasion from personal pain. Attempting to forcefully heal another person against their will exemplifies the dysfunctional aspect of the inner parent. If our inner child remains unresolved, our inner parent is bound to function ineffectively.
The whining and controlling tendencies accompanying this pattern often alienate our Twins. The declaration "I will parent you regardless of your preference" seldom yields positive outcomes. As unhealed fragments within us surface, we find ourselves repeatedly enacting this scenario.
Distinguishing between empathetic compassion and wisdom is crucial. Alternatively, striking a balance between compassion and wisdom is essential. Excessive generosity might prevent growth in the other person. If a child is never taught that certain behaviors are unacceptable, they may develop into individuals with problematic traits. The inability to assert oneself against a demanding child makes us susceptible to manipulation by someone immature and morally unaware. This parallels our interactions with sub-personalities within ourselves and often with our Twins.
Wisdom and compassion must harmonize when our Twin's actions cause harm, often unintentionally. Their actions stem from unresolved aspects of themselves, particularly their unhealed inner child.
Trust. Above all, trust in their capacity to heal independently. Forcing healing upon their inner child is unnecessary. Frequently, the most we can do is establish boundaries and embark on our healing journey.
Is this effortless? No. Sometimes refusing their desires might cause heartbreak and anguish. Nevertheless, the alternative is grimmer. The movie scene from "The Basketball Diaries" encapsulates the concept of growing into a responsible inner parent.
Occasionally, they assume the role of the parent - the kind parent who refuses to indulge our misguided sense of love.
Remarkably, this isn't solely about oneself. At times, they function as the parent, teaching us vital lessons by seemingly rejecting us. Even the unawakened, seemingly irrational actions of our Twin Flame render us the greatest service - teaching us authentic love. This encompasses self-love, love for the Creator, and love for the Beloved. Their souls have committed to this service, a service surpassing our comprehension within the three-dimensional realm, where appearances can deceive.
Why Does It Unfold This Way?
Encountering one's Twin Flame activates a profound transformation within the soul. To clarify, I propose that only specific portions of our soul incarnate during each lifetime to address specific issues and lessons. This is partly due to the constraints of our world, where three-dimensional reality cannot wholly accommodate the entirety of our soul. However, this dynamic transforms upon the initial meeting of Twin Flames. The surge of energy during their encounter summons the entire soul, from the celestial heights to the deepest depths.
This elucidates the phases of separation. Some fragments of our soul that emerge might have been influenced by negative energies, trapped in lower realms devoid of light and love. It's not merely the inner child; it's the segments of our soul craving even the slightest trace of light. Having glimpsed the light, we desire our Twin to remain a Divine Lover. Yet, they're not there, just as we aren't.
Until we address this yearning, we're essentially immobilized. The Light must illuminate the profound, dark, desperate fragments within us. These fragments emerged due to trauma and descended into darkness, both literal and metaphorical. The fragments were terrified of descending into darkness again, terrified of losing even the tiniest speck of light. When encountering our Twin, all these facets emerge. Healing these fragments becomes imperative, regardless of the challenges.
As Above, So Below
Feeling deprived and diminished in the presence of one's Twin reflects an analogous perception towards God and the Universe. Concealed within us lies a sense of scarcity - that the Universe lacks abundance, whether it's love, wealth, or opportunities. The Twin mirrors what we believe we're deserving of, echoing our sense of unworthiness.
When we view our Twin connection through this lens, it reflects our connection with the Divine. It suggests that God isn't supportive, compelling us to seek fulfillment from our Twin. They become the prime source for this fulfillment. Their mistreatment (inevitable in such a scenario) amplifies the perception of scarcity. In this view, God withholds joy, reinforcing the existing notion of lack. This mirrors the underlying concept of inadequacy.
Meeting a Twin Flame is an impactful activation of the soul. So potent that our entire soul temporarily converges. Generally, only segments of our soul incarnate in a specific lifetime to address particular issues and lessons. This limitation arises due to the constraints of our three-dimensional world. However, the initial meeting of Twin Flames defies this norm. The energy surge during this meeting beckons the entire soul, from celestial heights to profound depths.
This clarifies the phases of separation. Specific segments of our soul that emerge might have been influenced by negative energies, trapped in lower realms devoid of light and love. This doesn't only involve the inner child; it encompasses the fragments of our soul yearning for even the smallest glimmer of light. Having glimpsed the light, we desire our Twin to persist as our Divine Lover. But they're not there yet, just as we aren't.
Until we address this yearning, we're essentially immobilized. The Light must illuminate the profound, dark, desperate fragments within us. These fragments emerged due to trauma and descended into darkness, both literal and metaphorical. The fragments were terrified of descending into darkness again, terrified of losing even the tiniest speck of light. When encountering our Twin, all these facets emerge. Healing these fragments becomes imperative, regardless of the challenges.
As Above, So Below
Feeling deprived and diminished in the presence of one's Twin reflects an analogous perception towards God and the Universe. Concealed within us lies a sense of scarcity - that the Universe lacks abundance, whether it's love, wealth, or opportunities. The Twin mirrors what we believe we're deserving of, echoing our sense of unworthiness.
When we view our Twin connection through this lens, it reflects our connection with the Divine. It suggests that God isn't supportive, compelling us to seek fulfillment from our Twin. They become the prime source for this fulfillment. Their mistreatment (inevitable in such a scenario) amplifies the perception of scarcity. In this view, God withholds joy, reinforcing the existing notion of lack. This mirrors the underlying concept of inadequacy.
Learning to directly receive love from the Source is essential. It doesn't involve others bestowing love upon us, but rather our transformation into beings of love.
When we perceive love as external, demanding it from others or accusing them of not loving us, we relinquish our power. The societal conditioning around us has taught us that love resides externally, requiring us to change ourselves to attain it. This blinds us to the fact that we can receive love exactly as we are, without needing to alter anything about ourselves.
While we might intellectually grasp this concept and believe we've embraced it previously, there are layers within our soul that haven't fully internalized it. Interestingly, these layers surface when we encounter our Twin Flame. The key lies in relinquishing our longing and feelings of inadequacy to the universe, requesting to be replenished. By seeking assistance from higher beings or God and allowing them to assume some parental role, we surrender to the care of the universe.
The challenge in receiving often stems from the influence of our parents. Their treatment of us, often derived from how they were treated, becomes the basis of our inner blocks. Viewing God or the Universe through the lens of parental figures can lead us to believe that the Universe aims to punish us or that we must earn love from both the Creator and people. This perspective aligns God with judgment and fosters the idea that we must prove ourselves deserving. However, constructing God in our image renders us perpetually undeserving.
We aren't unworthy of God, love, or profound connection. Yet, to access higher states, we must reject lower ones. For some of us, this proves to be a formidable challenge. Despite the lack of guarantees, releasing the need for control in the three-dimensional realm and healing our inner neediness triggers a shift in the spiritual bond with our Twin Flame. This transformation resembles discovering an invaluable pearl that outshines everything else. All possessions, needs, and aspirations lose their significance and fade into insignificance.
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