Discovering your twin flame is a thrilling phase in your life. The love and connection experienced during this time are unparalleled, evoking intense emotions and a sense of exhilaration.
However, there may be moments when it seems like you're the only one swept up in this excitement. Despite our busy lives, feeling neglected can easily creep in when your twin flame is too preoccupied for you.
If you've been grappling with such emotions, I'm here to assist you. This article will delve into the reasons behind your twin flame's busyness and guide how to cope with the feeling of being neglected.
Are they still harboring love for me?
Undoubtedly, this question occupies a prominent place in your mind. While a twin flame relationship is unique, it remains firmly grounded in reality.
The busyness of your twin flame doesn't necessarily indicate a lack of love or concern for you. Take a deep breath and carefully consider the exact reasons behind their busy schedule.
Perhaps they recently acquired a new job, are facing health or family issues, or have taken up a new hobby. Although these reasons aren't excuses, they do provide insight that can help alleviate your concerns.
On the other hand, what if there are no apparent reasons and they simply don't seem interested in spending time with you?
Could they be a runner?
A twin flame connection is intense and overwhelming, particularly for those unaccustomed to such profound psychic energy.
In these instances, the individual is often referred to as a "runner," indicating their inclination to flee from the connection between the two of you. For various reasons, they believe they must protect themselves and, by extension, protect you.
However, the remarkable aspect of twin flames is that you share the same soul, reflecting each other perfectly. So if they're running, you are too.
It may sound perplexing, especially when you're exerting considerable effort to maintain the connection while they appear too busy to prioritize it. Nonetheless, if you're a woman and your partner is a man, there is a way to entice him to stop running and return to you.
Unveiling the hero instinct
Have you come across this concept before? Coined by relationship coach James Bauer, the hero instinct asserts that men possess an inherent biological drive to earn their partner's love and feel needed.
Initially, you might feel offended by this notion, especially as someone who identifies as a strong, independent feminist. Yet, upon closer examination, it begins to make a certain kind of sense.
The hero instinct isn't suggesting that men should always be the protectors and "alpha males." Instead, it posits that activating a man's hero instinct enables him to be more present and committed within the relationship.
So, how can you awaken the hero instinct?
First and foremost, ensure that your actions are sincere and genuine. Your intention isn't to manipulate your partner but to stimulate his natural inclination to protect and cherish you.
Here are five quick tips to trigger this instinct:
Seek his assistance: This is the simplest way to activate the hero instinct in your partner. By providing him with an opportunity to help you, he will feel needed, especially if you express your gratitude for his assistance.
Offer genuine praise: Authenticity is key here. When you make him feel good, he will recognize and appreciate the unique woman you are, as well as the deep connection you share as twin flames.
Avoid going overboard: It's crucial not to come across as insincere. If you overdo it, he will sense it, and instead of feeling loved and needed, he may feel the opposite.
Allow him to protect you: Unfortunately, as women, we often encounter catcalls on the street. While most of us either ignore or react aggressively, when this happens, let your partner take care of it instead.
Communicate openly: Express your happiness and be honest about your feelings. Let him know that you love and appreciate him, along with the things he does for you.
I hope these tips will assist you if your twin flame is evading the connection. Nevertheless, remember that you are a complete and whole individual, even when separated from your twin flame.
Direct your focus on yourself. While your twin flame may be considered the other half of your soul, they are not the missing piece that completes you. They serve to complement you, not define you entirely.
If your twin flame is occupied and doesn't have time for you, take the opportunity to concentrate on self-improvement. Engage in self-care activities and treat yourself kindly. Explore your surroundings, spend time with loved ones, or splurge on that video game or makeup kit you've had your eye on.
During this period, take some moments for self-reflection. Recognize that you, like everyone else, have flaws, but you remain deserving of love. Having a twin flame means having a catalyst for personal growth, and both of you deserve to heal emotional wounds and emerge stronger.
However, there may come a time when you must face the harsh reality that your twin flame may not be interested in a close relationship, whether it be romantic or platonic. Remember, this is not your fault; it could simply be that fate has alternative plans for both of you.
We cannot control the universe, much as we may wish to. Therefore, trust that it will happen in due course if you and your twin flame are meant to be together. The universe will eventually reveal its grand plan, so until then, prioritize taking care of someone vital—yourself.
If you believe that lack of communication is not the issue, there are still a few ways to regain your twin flame's attention.
Effective communication is key. If your attempts to reach out have been met with ignorance, it is possible that they are not interested. However, if they are genuinely preoccupied with other aspects of their life, you should be able to have an open conversation with them to understand what is happening.
One advantage of being twin flames is the ability to communicate on a deeper level than mere words. You may already have a sense of what is truly bothering your twin flame. However, an honest conversation using verbal communication can still be beneficial.
For instance, in my relationship, my partner and I often have an unspoken understanding. However, we make it a point to check in with each other and discuss our well-being. This strengthens our connection and even triggers his hero instinct.
With twin flames, intense emotions are experienced, feeding off each other. Some of these emotions are positive, such as happiness, love, and attraction, while others are negative, such as anger, jealousy, or depression. Your connection amplifies these emotions for both of you.
While communication is important, clinging desperately to your twin flame will push them further away. If you're feeling panicked, grasping onto your twin flame may provide temporary relief.
Instead, create some distance between you. Just a little step back. Take a deep breath and give them space if your attempts to resolve issues through conversation have not been successful. Sometimes, a temporary separation can be beneficial.
During this time apart, you can assess if they truly are your twin flame. If they are, no matter how many times or for how long you separate, the universe will always find a way to bring you back together.
And if they are not your true twin flame? It does not mean you lack a twin flame or that you should give up on finding them. Sometimes, the person you believe to be your twin flame is merely a passing spark. The connection you feel is still valid, but when you encounter your true twin flame, it may ignite into a more profound and powerful bond, like a bonfire.
Feeling better? Always remember that, regardless of the circumstances, you are a complete and whole person, with or without your mirror soul.
If your twin flame is too occupied for you, it is not a reflection of your shortcomings. Ultimately, you and your twin flame only desire what is best for each other.
Therefore, prioritize your well-being and trust that your connection will guide you back together at the right time.
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